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Sex Toys

Pick Your Own Adventure: Strap-On Edition

Very Realistic or Wildly Fictional, Which style strap is calling your name?

renorion67 and Sinclair Sexsmith
November 13, 2021
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Sex Toys

My Strap Pack Doesn’t Have Cheeto Dust In It And Yours Shouldn’t Either

A look into the essentials of my beloved strap pack.

Syn November 12, 2021 10 Comments
Sex

Sharing Is Caring — Or Did You Skip That Day In School?

Do you get a new strap for each partner or do you say “Baby…just boil it”?

Carolyn Stransky and Arese Sylvester
November 12, 2021 9 Comments
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First Person Sex

Strapping As A Fat Femme Was My Black Queer Sexual Liberation

A fat Black femme explores the relationship with her body and shares how strapping became part of her sexual liberation.

Demetria Blooms November 11, 2021 6 Comments
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First Person Sex

I Always (Never) Feel Like — Somebody’s Watching Me

Are you gonna let them watch you strap up or are you a “BRB” kinda babe?

Danielle and SC Dillon
November 11, 2021 7 Comments
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Sex Toys

Strap-On Harnesses For Every Stage Of Your Strap Journey

It’ll give comfort! It’ll give control! It’ll give rock star!! And who doesn’t want to feel like the main character when they’re blowing their partner’s back out!

Archie November 10, 2021 9 Comments
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First Person Sex

Suck My Silicone Or Save Your Mouth For Me?

Should you play suck and blow or what’s the point?

Kris Chesson and Rainn
November 10, 2021 12 Comments
Movie Features Sex Toys

Kristen Stewart in Charlie’s Angels Inspired Me to Buy a Strap-On

Who knew having a dick could be so gender euphoric?

Drew Burnett Gregory November 9, 2021 6 Comments
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Dating

You Need Help: I’ve Never Had a Date and I’m So Lonely

The bad news is the answer to loneliness is not necessarily found on dating apps. The good news is you can meet people other ways.

Vanessa November 9, 2021 17 Comments
First Person Sex

One Strap To Rule Them All Or Nah — Not So Much?

Do you only need one strap or is variety truly the spice of life?

Demetria Blooms and Courtney Garrett
November 9, 2021 3 Comments
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Identity Sex

An Act of Service: Strapping My Dom As a Leatherdyke Bottom

I still love service, but strapping for the first time expanded my very definition of the word.

A.C. Lamberty November 8, 2021 8 Comments
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Dating

Dating as a Single Dyke in My 60s

Singlehood in my late 50s to early 60s feels like trying to climb a sheer mountain cliff armed with only a bottle of lube

Elaine Bennett November 8, 2021 49 Comments
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First Person Sex

To Strap Or Not To Strap — That Is The Question

It’s the age-old queer question — Are you strapping or nah?

Addie Tsai and akalac
November 8, 2021 13 Comments
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NSFW Sunday

NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Is A Smorgasbord

How to make a relationship what everyone in it wants it to be, repair after a fight, tell your friends you’re back with your ex, love your body hair and more.

Ryan Yates November 7, 2021 3 Comments
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Relationships

You Need Help: I Don’t Want Kids But My Partner Might, Does This Mean We Can’t Get Married?

Our present selves can’t make promises for our future selves. Your partner is telling you what she knows about herself today. Is that enough?

Vanessa November 2, 2021 4 Comments
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NSFW Sunday

NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Is A Sexy Cat

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Ryan Yates October 31, 2021
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First Person Love + Sex

Scenes from a Gender 05: The Prehatching Years

I was mortified, to be sure, but also honored and validated, to be on the girls’ team. And oh yes, honey – I’ve never left.

Bishakh Som October 28, 2021 30 Comments
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Lesbian Dating Apps

You Need Help: I’ve Matched With the Same Person Three Times on Tinder

We started chatting, and it was going well until she abruptly stopped replying.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya October 26, 2021 12 Comments
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Sex Toys

Anonymous Sex Toy Review: The Pom

I am a sucker for a small, strong vibrator, and I was curious to try out the Pom vibrator, which boasts flexibility as a main feature.

Guest October 26, 2021
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