The Mid-30s Divorcées Who Once Built a Sex Throne
From the friend zone to the throne room, a tale as old as time.
‘Talking About Sex Gives Me Literal Hives’
“I’ve tried so many things. Closing my eyes while talking. Getting drunk. I just can’t get there.”
There’s Nothing Wrong With Being a Third Wheel
You can blame it on avoidant attachment or being a Sagittarius, but exclusion can be incredible.
12 Queers on Where We Fall on the Polyamory/Monogamy Scale
Monogamy and polyamory exist on a spectrum and often aren’t fixed black-and-white categories.
Please Stop Telling My Older Girlfriend Not to Date Me
How to cope when social commentary has your older girlfriend wondering if she’s a pervert for dating you. Plus, what if your brother’s line in the sand is not yours?
Queer Love Knows No Borders but Tell That to the U.S. Government
Whether leaving the U.S. or trying to get back, terrified or resigned, every queer person I spoke to in an international long distance relationship says they feel less at ease to travel.
How To Make Sending Nudes Your Love Language
My dual-citizenship as a rampant slut who loves sending nudes and a sex worker deeply concerned with safety makes me oddly well-positioned to talk about it. Here are some crucial hows and ifs of sending nudes as one of your love languages.
Our Best Memories With Our Worst Exes
Even bad relationships contain good memories.
‘I’m a Switch Having Trouble Initiating Topping’
My partner has a high libido and I have a relatively low one.
I Haven’t Orgasmed During Sex in Five Years and It’s Really Okay
Orgasms never came (hah) easily to me.
She Won’t Date Me Because I Cheated on Someone Years Ago — Ok Miss Perfect!
She dumped you after finding out you cheated on a past girlfriend! Also, how can you interact with straight women without seeming like a man-hating lesbian?
Love Is the Last Rainbow Cookie
Whenever my best friend comes to visit, she brings me a container of rainbow cookies.
‘My Crush Has a Boyfriend. How Do I Get Over Her and Stop Hating Him?’
Even though it doesn’t feel like it, these feelings will pass. What’s meant for you will come to you. In the meantime, dance/cry/sweat/scream it out.
The Married LA Parents Who Are Getting Off Up to 7 Times
These two started out as strictly hooking up for the sex, and now they’re finishing each other’s sentences. This is how they f*ck.
Capitalism Is a B*tch, but I Can’t Help My Friends Anymore
Should you keep recommending your friends for jobs, when they keep dropping the ball? Also, we help a reader whose younger friend isn’t taking their dating advice.
What’s the Best Time To Have Sex?
8 a.m.? 8 p.m.? Noon? Midnight?! When is the best literal time to have sex? A bunch of queers sound off.
‘I Want To Flee My Relationship’
“Today, I was talking to a dear friend about the current state of my relationship. They told me that it sounds like I am trapped, and that I am being controlled. Worst of all, they said that my long-term partner ‘basically owns’ me.”
‘I Am Nervous About Having Sex With My Trans Girlfriend for the First Time’
I would love some insights from other trans women on what to expect when having sex with a trans woman, because I really want her to have a good time and feel comfortable despite my nerves.
Try This New ‘Wicked’-Inspired Lesbian Sex Move: Shizoring
Wicked obsession is a full-time job, and when you’re in it there’s no real escape — even, it turns out, in the bedroom.
How I Learned To Enjoy Receiving (In Honor of ‘The Giver’)
If a stone top likes “The Giver” and it resonates with them, I think that’s beautiful. But to call Chappell a stone top and the song a stone top anthem? A reach!