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AF+ Sex

The Trans Brooklyn Dykes With a Significant Height Difference Who Enjoy Twilight Cosplay

“Definitely when I gave you herpes is the most memorable time we had sex, but it’s not my favorite. Maybe it’s when we had sex on the dance floor as Edward and Jacob.”

Sex/Life October 2, 2025 1 Comment
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AF+ Breakups

Is It So Wrong To Pick Up My Ex-Girlfriend From Jail?

Your girlfriend wants you to go no-contact with your ex after you picked her up from jail. Also; is it ok to tell your now-sober partner about the mean things they said when they were drunk?

the team September 26, 2025 3 Comments
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Friendship

‘I’m in Someone’s Close Friends List and Don’t Like It’

“I also am usually scrolling ig on public transportation and it’s just shocking to suddenly see a butt close up.”

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya September 23, 2025 2 Comments
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AF+ Dating

Help I Have a Crush On My Ex-Boyfriend’s Sister

Should you make a move on an ex-boyfriend’s sister who may or may not be your root? Also — tips on sexting A WRITER.

the team September 19, 2025 2 Comments
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Sex

What Is the Brat/Brat Tamer Kink Dynamic All About?

This style of submission and its associated dynamic is often maligned due to cultural perceptions or people’s bad experiences with a brat. 

Summer Tao September 17, 2025 4 Comments
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Breakups

‘How Do I Heal From This Prolonged Breakup and Is Repair Possible?’

Does a prolonged breakup like this mean we’ll never be friends again?

Summer Tao September 9, 2025 2 Comments
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Dating

50 Gay Questions To Ask on a First Date

A collection of 50+ gay first date question prompts to get the conversation flowing.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya September 6, 2025 6 Comments
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AF+ Sex

I Feel Like Leaving When My Sexual Partners Require Me To Come

How can you convince your hookups to stop trying to make you have an orgasm? Also, tips on maintaining a writing practice for people with ADHD.

the team September 5, 2025 4 Comments
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Friendship

In Defense of the Queer ‘Emotional Support Ex’

Engaging with the world as a queer person means many of the roadmaps we learn at a young age in a heteronormative society are useless.

AJ August 26, 2025 4 Comments
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Dating

‘I’ve Been Out of the Sex/Dating Scene and I Feel Fine About It? I Think?’

It’s like I’m sexually active in theory but not in practice.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya August 26, 2025 1 Comment
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AF+ Dating

I’m 34 and Want Kids. Is It Ethical To Eliminate Older Women From My Dating Pool?

What’s the best way to approach dating when you’re looking to co-parent? And is “looking for younger women” one of those ways?

the team August 22, 2025 3 Comments
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Sex

How To Explore Pregnancy Fetish and Kink During Pregnancy

Whether exploring pregnancy fetish or embarking on kinky exploration with a pregnant pleasure vessel, your options for satiating your desires are as limitless as your imagination.

Madison Young August 20, 2025 1 Comment
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Dating

‘I Went on a Not-Quite-Date With a Woman in a Relationship and Now I’m Down Bad’

“Do I tell this person how I feel because I don’t find genuine emotional connections/attraction like this very often?”

Summer Tao August 19, 2025 5 Comments
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AF+ Lesbian Weddings

Must I Invite My Homophobic Stepdad To My Homosexual Wedding?

He was awful when you came out, but now he wants to COME OUT to your wedding. Also; how to friend an ex without sending mixed signals.

the team August 15, 2025
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AF+ Sex

The Formerly Poly Fortysomethings Who U-Hauled Into The Best, Wettest Sex Of Their Lives

“I just remember how covered in sawdust we were. And I lost a sock at the bathhouse. It was kind of chaotic.”

Sex/Life August 14, 2025
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Breakups

‘How Do I Get My Ex To Stop Going To My Favorite Bar?’

“Do I have to give up this place I love so much? That seems so unfair!”

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya August 12, 2025
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AF+ Relationships

Can’t a Lesbian Enjoy a Little Straight Porn Around Here?

Your best friend is shaming you for the kind of porn that gets you off. Also; tips on having more threesomes.

the team August 8, 2025
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AF+ Sex

The Married New Englanders Debating an Erotic Tattoo Gun Situation

“We used a lot of different toys in the beginning, and I think that was because I personally had a lot of toys that I wanted to share with you to be like, ‘Is this cool?’

Sex/Life August 7, 2025 1 Comment
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AF+ Sex

The Slut4Slut Couple F*cking Through a “Wanna Try” List

“I think at the top of the list is rope. But that one’s harder ‘cause you can’t just try it, you need to know what you’re doing.”

Sex/Life July 31, 2025
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Breakups First Person

My Ex Is Stuck in Friend Request Purgatory

She was a season. A fever dream. A glitter bomb of an experience. And I’m grateful. I am. But also: I’m not accepting that friend request.

Carlo July 31, 2025 41 Comments
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