Will Everyone Always Seem Second-Best to My Ex?
They checked every box, but now it’s over and nothing else seems to come close. Will it always be this way? Also, we help a reader decide if she should shave her bush just because someone asked her to.
‘Do Lesbians Really Expect Hours and Hours of Sex’
“Asexual lesbian with a nearly nonexistant sex drive here. All I hear is that the expected norm in lesbian relationships is hours and hours of sex at a time. PLEASE tell me this is true for only 9/10 non-ace lesbians (or less).”
I’m Moving In With My Ex-Situationship (Wait, There’s More)
She’s dating your bestie, still flirts with you, and you’re all three moving in together?! Also, a reader wonders if she’s really a lesbian if all of her exes came out as trans men.
‘I’m a Thirty-Something Lesbian Worried I’ll Be Single Forever’
“And I’m a total catch! I have a great job, I own my house, I’m smart, cute, and don’t speak to any of my exes!”
What’s a Normal Human Behavior That Gives You the Ick?
Listen, did we have a little TOO MUCH FUN ranting about our various icks? Maybe so. And now you can have some fun with us, too, delving into the various things that give us pause, squick us out, and just straight up annoy or piss us off.
My Boyfriend Doesn’t Trust Me to Party at Pride This Year
You cheated on your boyfriend and now he’s asking you to stay home from Pride parties — is that fair? Also, how to navigate different types of political activism.
The Former Long-Distance Couple Who F*cked So Much They Made Each Other Sick
“I was showing up to classes late, missing deadlines, covered in hickeys.”
‘My Partner Talks on the Phone With Their Abusive Ex Every Day’
“Am I valid to be unsettled? And is there anything I can do to facilitate a conversation with them about this?”
The People We Miss From Breakups Other Than Our Exes
I think of all the people who exited my life because of breakups and how neither of us knew our final conversations with each other were exactly that.
‘I’m Dating a Woman for the First Time and Can’t Go Down on Her’
“Whenever I try to go down on her I get grossed out by the taste and the smell. She is very clean so I know it is not a hygiene issue, and she is the only woman I have ever been with.”
I Actually Don’t Need to Hear About Your Trans Allyship!
Your friends are on your side and they can’t wait to tell you about it! Also, we help a trans reader who’s nervous about international travel.
A Master’s in Psychology Explains Clicker Training a Submissive in a Kink Context
Clicker training keys into the mental side of kink using benign tools.
8 Queer Sexting Experts on How We Digitally Do It
Voice memos, FaceTime, short videos, live photos, nudes, role-playing, classic texting — sexting can look like a lot of different things.
Breaking Up Is Hard To Do
We broke up on a Wednesday at 10 p.m. Any other Wednesday, and we might have been watching a show, taking a bath together, or sitting at our desks in the office we shared.
The Polyamorous NYC Couple with a Daddy / Baby Girl Dynamic
Group sex, mutual masturbation, radical honesty, and lots of oral! The classics, really.
‘My Girlfriend Thinks My Music Taste Is Trash’
She’ll often play recent music and ask me if I know who it is when she knows the answer is no.
How To Have Great Queer Sex in a Tent
The first thing I want to emphasize is that the goal of tent sex doesn’t have to be recreating the normal sex you have in a new location.
My Queer Friends Are Mean About How Skinny I Am
Is it ever ok to comment on another person’s body? Also, we help a reader with a loud late-night roommate.
The Monogamous Newlyweds in Jersey City Who Might Be Open to a Threesome
Marin and Leigh are in their early thirties, don’t really wear heels (but could probably make it work), and still really love sex in a car!
Is There a Chill Way To Tell Your Girlfriend They Smell Bad?
This is a touchy subject! What should you say? When should you say it? Also, how to deal with body dysmorphia on video calls.