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Issues

Trans Women of Color Organizers Are Building a Movement to Decriminalize Sex Work in D.C.

These trans women activists have banded together in support of a city council bill that, if passed, would decriminalize consensual sex work in D.C. for people who are 18 and older, building grassroots power for their own communities.

By Neesha Powell-Twagirumukiza|13 mins ago
Advice

Five Perfect Holiday Gifts for the 8,000 Spiders Who Raised You in That Damp Cave

Check out this list so you don’t have to phone it in again this year by getting your 8,000 mothers another handful of flies!

By Allie Rubin|2 hours ago|5 Comments
Television

“Riverdale” 409 Recap: Cast Lili Reinhart in a Horror Movie, You Cowards

Betty gets an incredible horror storyline, but it doesn’t have enough time to breathe.

By Kayla|19 hours ago|1 Comment
Society + Culture

Holigay Gift Guide: Some Cheer For Your Sad Friends

You might not be able to cure your buddy’s sadness, but you can definitely bring some holiday cheer into heart this season.

By Al(aina)|20 hours ago|19 Comments
Society + Culture

Holigay Gift Guide: Gifts for Your Fave Baby Gay

It’s a truth universally acknowledged that a newly-out baby gay must be in want of rainbow-bedecked everything. Here’s a guide to the easiest holiday shopping you’ll ever do.

By Lisa A.C. Ryan|22 hours ago|2 Comments
A+

Some Answers to Some Things You’ve Been Asking Us #27

Tell us, do you have any superstitions?

By The Editors|December 12, 2019|6 Comments
Issues

“Tired!” or How I Ran For, and Queered, My Union’s Politics

After my frustrations grew, I ran for a seat in SAG-AFTRA’s delegation and became our first elected non-binary delegate, learning life lessons and queering up the world of labor union politics along the way.

By kylie sparks|December 12, 2019|3 Comments
Society + Culture

We Joined REI To #OptOutside On Black Friday And It Was A Gay Ol’ Time!

This year, Opt Outside continued to grow and evolve, becoming a full movement in the process — instead of choosing to make the world better for one day, REI invited its employees and customers to commit to making the world better, consistently, for an entire year.

By Heather Hogan|December 11, 2019|2 Comments
Arts + Pop Culture

Pop Culture Fix: The L Word’s Back and Everyone Sure Does Have an Opinion About It

Hey The L Word, have you heard of it? Also, the Miss Universe contest has its first openly gay contestant, Lizzo and the USWNT are chosen by TIME, some gay and gay-adjacent trailers you’re going to want to see, and more!

By Heather Hogan|December 11, 2019|11 Comments
Sex + Relationships

10 Non-Confrontational Gifts For Your Girlfriend’s Other Partner

Need a gift that says, “Don’t worry — I’m a great communicator and navigating non-monogamy in a culture that privileges monogamous partnerships is totally easy for me?” Never fear!

By Malic White|December 11, 2019|25 Comments
Television

CW Crossover “Crisis On Infinite Earths” Part 3: Batwoman vs Supergirl

Kate Kane tries to stop Supergirl from doing something dangerous as the end of the world(s) draws nigh.

By Valerie Anne|December 11, 2019|21 Comments
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Health + Athletics

Holigay Gift Guide: For Queer Hiking Babes of All Shapes and Sizes

Happy hiking, homos! I look forward to seeing you out there.

By Vanessa|December 11, 2019|4 Comments
Vapid Fluff

No Filter: Amandla Stenberg Did Her Own Makeup For This Photoshoot

Amandla Stenberg gives us a Fenty Beauty tutorial and Amber Heard and I creep closer to understanding one another!

By Christina Tucker|December 11, 2019|8 Comments
First Person Television

HBO’s “Mrs. Fletcher” Wants Us All to F*ck

Mrs. Fletcher is entirely directed by women and it’s all about sex. More specifically it’s about who’s historically been entitled to sex, how it feels to historically be denied sexual expression, and the difficulties of navigating sexual discovery. Especially if you’re as horny as every single character on this show.

By Drew Gregory|December 11, 2019|35 Comments
Fashion/Style

Basic Butch Style: A Cheat Sheet to Dressing for Every Holiday Party

Deciding how formal an event will be is something more of an art than a science in 2019, here’s how to mix and match to the find right look for every occasion.

By Holly|December 11, 2019|6 Comments
Sex + Relationships

How to Honestly Tell When It’s Time to Break Up

Sometimes it takes an outside perspective and an objective read on what’s going on to tell whether it’s healthiest to separate — which is why our team is here to tell you from experience when it’s time to go.

By the team|December 11, 2019|15 Comments
Sex + Relationships

Holigay Gift Guide: Seasonal Sex Toys That Are Both Naughty and Nice

Whether it’s an affordable treat, something sexy for you and yours to share in bed, or a luxury investment in your pleasure to reward yourself for making it through this year, add one more stop to your shopping this season and you and your activity partners will be thanking you for it all year long.

By Rachel|December 10, 2019|1 Comment
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The Resistance

Holigay Gift Guide: Gear and Gadgets for Wilderness Survival

Have a queer survivalist friend who needs some new gear to round out their “get up and go” kit? Or a friend who just likes hiking and/or being outdoors but isn’t sufficiently prepared for the possibility of something going wrong?

By Abeni Jones|December 10, 2019|5 Comments
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Television

CW Crossover “Crisis on Infinite Earths” Part Two: Pretty Pretty Paragons

The Crisis Continues! Kate Kane and Kara Danvers team up to find a Paragon while Sara Lance teaches Mia Smoak about the perils of Lazarus pits.

By Valerie Anne|December 10, 2019|11 Comments
Sex + Relationships

Holigays: Sexy, Sweet Gifts for Long Distance Relationships

Loving someone far away makes us flex our creativity to connect in new ways. Here’s some gifts to get your long-distance sweetie so you can feel close to them, even when they’re 1,730 miles (or more) away.

By Archie|December 10, 2019|2 Comments
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