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Geekery

Foolish Child: #60: Cousins

Which cousin? You have like 500?

By Dickens|December 4, 2019|3 Comments
Sex + Relationships

Always Be My Baby: Our Semi-Professional Opinions on What Keeps Queer Couples Together

“I think there’s an idea out there that love just HAPPENS to you and it’s magic and not something you have to nurture to ensure it grows and thrives. That’s… a lie.”

By the team|December 4, 2019|22 Comments
Society + Culture

Holigay Gift Guide: For the Aspiring Witch in Your Life

Simple and accessible tools for reclaiming power and making a little magic.

By meg|December 4, 2019|2 Comments
Television

Autostraddle’s Favorite and Least Favorite Lesbian, Bisexual and Trans TV Characters of 2019

Here’s what we loved this year and what we didn’t like very much at all. We’d love to hear your opinions too, obviously!

By The TV Team|December 3, 2019|29 Comments
Television

Bette Porter 2020? Five Fictional Los Angeles Gays Remain in Our Election!

Can Bette Porter pull this thing out? As I mentioned yesterday, she hasn’t won a single round of voting yet! She keeps getting edged out by the same person!

By Heather Hogan|December 3, 2019|16 Comments
Advice

Queered & Careered: How I Use Journaling to Resist at Work

Need a ride or die bestie at work who will listen, affirm you, and help you process that recent microaggression? Turn right to your journal!

By Tiara DeGuzman|December 3, 2019|9 Comments
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Sex + Relationships

Seven Paddles We Love for Queer Kinky Sex

Want to reward bad behavior but don’t know where to start? These paddles are one possibility.

By Carolyn Yates|December 3, 2019|37 Comments
Issues

Toward an Applicable Theory of Just Not

On refusal, rest, and resistance.

By Rachel|December 3, 2019|39 Comments
Politics + Activism

Take Autostraddle’s Politics Survey: We Want Your Queer Opinions

What are the political issues in the US you are most concerned about? What are your priorities for securing LGBTQ+ rights? And if it were up to you, dear reader – of any citizenship, living in any country – who would you vote for in the US presidential primary elections?

By himani|December 3, 2019|33 Comments
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Film

“Season of Love” is a Cheesy Queer Holiday Movie of Our Own

Season of Love has the same mistletoe mishaps of any holiday movie, but with 200% more queerness.

By Valerie Anne|December 2, 2019|13 Comments
Television

VOTE NOW! Bette Porter 2020? Davina Squeezed Past Denbo by One Vote in Round 3!

Six candidates remain! One day to vote!

By Heather Hogan|December 2, 2019|15 Comments
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Television

“Supergirl” Episode 508 Recap: Who Will Save Your Soul?

The race to save Lena from herself is on and Alex and Kara have different ideas for how to stop her.

By Valerie Anne|December 2, 2019|12 Comments
Society + Culture

Also.Also.Also: An HIV Vaccine, Eating the Rich, and Other Stories for Your Week

A lil’ Lillith Fair-lite tour for the furious and jaded, the Out 100 awards, queer tattooers, an HIV vaccine, and more!

By Laneia|December 2, 2019|7 Comments
Issues

Clockbeat

If you could have any superpower, what would it be?

By Kayla|December 2, 2019|17 Comments
Television

“The L Word” Episode 305 “Lifeline” in Out-of-Context Screenshots

Noted bisexual Gaby Dunn joins us on “To L and Back” to recap episode 305, in which Alice has sex with a vampire and Cherie stops by Wax for a haircut.

By Riese|December 2, 2019|8 Comments
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NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Is Not A Love Bomb

How do you tell if you’re horny? Why is love bombing manipulative? Why do first break-ups suck the hardest? What do you do if not everyone likes you?

By Carolyn Yates|December 1, 2019|7 Comments
Society + Culture

Sunday Funday is Celebrating Goth Lesbian Love and Babies

Happy Sunday! We’ve almost made it 525,600 minutes into the year, Billy Dee Williams is gender fluid, Senegalese folklore is on Netflix, a GSC is raising money for their students, the slow rise of lesbianism on TV, and more!

By Al(aina)|December 1, 2019|9 Comments
Sex + Relationships

The 50 Best Queer Sex Toys

Autostraddle’s definitive list of the 50 best sex toys for queer sex.

By Carolyn Yates|December 1, 2019|17 Comments
Advice Sex + Relationships

Queer Horoscopes for December 2019: Choose What Matters and Commit to Doing Better

Get ready for the Capricorn season to end all Capricorn seasons. Are you ready to work?

By Corina|December 1, 2019|3 Comments
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The Autostraddle Insider: Issue 63, November 2019

“Lol yes just got off work and ready for dyke shit”

By Riese|November 30, 2019|6 Comments
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