We answer questions from A+ members about disclosing PTSD while dating, coping with siblings who judge others for choosing to have children, healthy boundaries with partners, body acceptance and more!
“Sometimes winning the switch fight meant kind of losing. When you were both switches, though, everybody won no matter the outcome. It all came down to pride and play.”
The team offers advice to A+ members who asked whether a relationship can make it if you don’t feel you’re sexually compatible, what to do when falling hard for a queer coworker, and more!
Spiritually, we’re all making candles with Queen Latifah.
This month, Archie Bongiovanni is bringing you their years of experience at Minneapolis indie sex shop Smitten Kitten to talk you through everything about choosing, buying and using sex toys as a queer person.
It’s easy to feel like you’re the only one who still doesn’t feel okay when you’re grieving and dealing with mental health challenges in a culture that doesn’t know how to make space for either; we wanted to take this time to be honest about what we’re struggling with most at this point so at least you know you aren’t alone.
Breaking your roommates’ Covid precaution agreement, long-distance relationship panic, formalwear, should you break up with your partner when they’re going through a rough time, and more!
After the year we’ve had, we deserve the joy of debating which lesbian couple is better and who should’ve been seeded where. So we’re bringing back March Madness this year… and we’re exploring new ways to make the experience more fun and interactive for our readers!
“I had a kind of dirty dream about you. Do you want to hear about it?” You laugh, and fuck, that sound twists itself inside my chest like a fist. I want to make you laugh more. Your voice drops, somewhere between a whisper and a quake. “It started with me kissing you.”
sometime this year you are going to steal your first pack of cigarettes from *redacted*’s mom: please don’t ? you will like them far too much and also will feel bad forever for stealing
Truly the sky is the limit! Ask about anything!
This very weekend, right now in fact, we’re opening the A+ Members Discord Server again! Who knows what will happen! Tarot readings! Book clubs! Impromptu skillshare workshops! Lessons for elders about how to use TikTok! More pet photos! 9am PST Saturday March 6 – 8pm PST Sunday March 7
“I picked up the tentacle attachment and clicked it into place. For a moment, nothing happened – then, the tip began to move, seeking out something to touch, and the entire shaft lit up with sensation.”
Pandemic haircuts, changing your perception around friendships, do you want kids, do you need to know what you’re looking for when dating, feeling weird about not feeling New Relationship Energy, and more!
Birthdays are a great (terrible?) time for self-reflection — and what better occasion to mentally travel through time back to being a tween than Autostraddle’s 12th birthday which is on March 9?!
We’re delighted to be able to share an exclusive EXTENDED excerpt of A Desolation Called Peace in honor of its launch.
“Unless one of you all sent me a mesh shirt that said Pizza Slut???”
I am unapologetically, over the moon, absolutely just cheesy cornball, would probably make you roll your eyes levels, proud of being Black, especially during this — the 28 Blackest days of the year.
I am (was?) dating the Tenderqueer from “Dykes and Their Emotional Support Albums” who listens to Phoebe Bridgers and they haven’t texted me back since right before Christmas. Did I have it coming?
Shelli Nicole is bringing you a world of knowledge and insight about masturbation in a workshop for A+ members! Here’s the post where A+ members can get the info they need to register!
What to do when your girlfriend keeps talking about breaking up, considering whether to prepare for a life alone, how to move a conversation off of a dating app, discussing bras with your tween daughter, and more!