I did make out with my ex in the house here and there but the family was French and basically encouraged it and gave me wine every night.
Just a little data, discussion and analysis from the backstage area of the Autostraddle Gay Emmys!
Powdered hemp cutting into soft, bruised flesh. Jax tries to hook a finger between rope and skin and finds there isn’t room. It excites them.
“What does it mean to *be* the bi+ community? Does anything unite us? Can we find what we share and ignore all the bullshit and live into that?”
“You know, I was never annoyed that you were gay! I was just glad to know you. If it were the 1940s maybe we would have had a lavender marriage.”
Stating your needs around masturbation in a relationship, moving on from an on-again-off-again relationship, your dad hasn’t worked through his homophobia, and more!
“I know we don’t ever get to stop thinking entirely about the annoying issues we have to keep re-litigating over and over, but I do want us to get to move the conversation forward. And I want us to be able to have it on our terms – not as a reaction, not as a defense or a justification, but a conversation amongst ourselves about ourselves that lets us connect with and affirm each other.”
Mostly I had chalked my ambivalence up to stifling antidepressants and emotional avoidance. Was I gutted of desire or was this a case of under exposure? Or was I supposed to own my simpleton truth and scream from a cliff, “I just want to dim the lights and be pegged, goddamnit!”
Should you come out to your father who also has narcissistic personality disorder? What do you do with the digital remains of a relationship post-breakup? Navigating privilege, the pandemic and the uprising; feeling “behind” in life, crushing on a quarantine roommate, and more!
“just wanted to say i’m really loving the synchronicity and overall level of sexual tension on our homepage rn”
Finally, Danielle and Joanna are reunited are years of radio silence. Will Joanna’s voice still move Danielle as strongly as she remembers?
Dating and inexperience and some really positive advice about this, grieving while starting graduate school, coping with feelings of jealousy and more!
Severed and shamed by their church as teenagers, Danielle and Joanna are reunited years later by the very same song that propelled them into their sexual awakening years ago.
How do non-D&D Discords even work?!
Worries about a roommate’s mental health, thinking of dating after almost a decade of being single, evangelical parents and bisexuality, what to call your girlfriend when she dominates you, and more.
“is this like gay when harry met sally
bc that’s the only heterosexual love story that i like, so i’m feeling positive”
But we will show you!
“My biggest relationship fear is that my desire to not be controlled means that I’ll be alone forever and never receive any feeling of comfort or security. Yikes! Typing that out was fun.”
Broken up with during quarantine, exploring your sexuality in quarantine, feeling concerned about being “okay” in quarantine, sage advice for parents of a non-binary kid and more!
I wanted you to dominate me, Daddy, and you relished the chance. The leather straps twirled through the air as the pain grew sharper and more familiar. It stung hard. And it felt so fucking good.
What do I say when I think my friend might be rushing into marriage? Trauma and opening up a relationship, exploring sexually with a long-term partner, feelings about a (possibly straight) quarantine crush, and more!