In this queer sex diary: long-distance FaceTime fucking, a dish rack full of sex toys, feeling sad, feeling S.A.D., and feeling goofy and good.
“Life is hard enough, let me have this.”
*Law and Order sound* these are our stories — Autostraddle staffers share how they personally identify (or don’t!) and why.
“Sally? Sally, are you here? Are you selling those shirts?”
What types of relationship situations or people are you often drawn to even though you know they’re bad for you and will destroy you?
We’ve got 29 gorgeous questions and like 100 answers, so if you need help and you asked for it, you might find it in here. Casual hookups, breakups, threesomes, gender uncertainty, dating a co-worker, letting her down easy and so much more!
“I DON’T KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT BEING INTENSELY EMOTIONAL OR BAD WITH BOUNDARIES SOUNDS FAKE”
“She kisses me. I hold on to her arms lightly, not wanting to hurt her, not wanting to weird her out, make her uncomfortable. She’s here for me: I’d hired her for exactly that, and she agreed to it, and she’s here.”
Have you ever experienced bed death in your relationship? If you did move past it, how? Has bed death ever signaled the end of a relationship for you? Has a fear of bed death ever made an impact on your relationships? Do you think bed death isn’t a big deal and we should stop talking about it?
In this sex diary: a single femme sets herself a masturbation challenge. New sex toys, late-night porn, learning to feel free and more.
“a line of topless queers at the nude beach, but from the back
they’re all different sizes and shapes and abilities and it gives the impression that the entire queer community gets along and loves each other”
Welcome to A+ Sex Diaries, an A+ feature for Silver & Gold members in which we publish seven days in our sex lives. This week: A single, soft butch writer openly dating multiple people. Lesbian, 32, the American west.
“I’m going to make a shirt that says Rachel Is Right or maybe Listen to Rachel.”
“wait there are nipples on shutterstock??”
Grass lit up by flecks of sun
THE SLOW BURN
“Are you familiar with the Jughead Lesbian Style Debacle of 2018.”
“YES PUSSY IS ON THE LIST
Sex: it’s complicated! Some people like some things and other people like other things and some people love things other people do not like at all!
Here’s all the good, bad and the ugly about our first time viewing porn. Remember VHS tapes? Were we ever so young?
Unpacking internalized homophobia (and lesbophobia, and biphobia, and transphobia, and misogyny, and MORE) is hard, but for you we did our best!