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The Ultimatum: Queer Love’s Bridget Matloff on What the Cameras Didn’t Show You

Bridget Matloff speaks on friendship with Gabby Windey, pressures of reality TV, thoughts on marriage, gender roles, and yes, haircare.

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Sep 8, 2025

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I Was Already Afraid of My Inbox. Then a Death Threat Came

The deadline for my compliance with the “blackmail” had already passed. It was supposed to…

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Aug 13, 2025

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On Being a Masc Top From Rural Oklahoma

You’ve fucked every lesbian sorority girl in Oklahoma, someone tells me on an app. Well,…

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Jul 23, 2025

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A Breastfeeding Journey Of a Thousand Miles Begins With a Single Baby Step

“I woke up feeling like someone had run me over with a truck and I…

Riese

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Jul 10, 2025

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I Was Already Afraid of My Inbox. Then a Death Threat Came

The deadline for my compliance with the “blackmail” had already passed. It was supposed to be noon.

Nico

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Aug 13, 2025

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On Being a Masc Top From Rural Oklahoma

You’ve fucked every lesbian sorority girl in Oklahoma, someone tells me on an app. Well, I said. Probably not all of them, right?

Anonymous

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Jul 23, 2025

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A Breastfeeding Journey Of a Thousand Miles Begins With a Single Baby Step

“I woke up feeling like someone had run me over with a truck and I thought, “I guess this is motherhood.” And probably would’ve died thinking that.”

Riese

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Jul 10, 2025

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It’s Officially Baby Time But Oops I Changed My Mind

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1 across / 3 letters / One who might travel hours to see a Chappell Roan concert

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AF+ Crossword Is Obviously a Villain

Evil mastermind cruciverbalist seeks word-loving wicked henchpeople.

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Aug 24, 2024

Hands are shown collaged over each other, insinuating monogamy on one hand and polyamory on the other.

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I’m Monogamous, They’re Polyamorous, Can We Make It Work?

You don’t want to lose them or change them, but you sure do wish you could make them be monogamous! Also: advice on breaking the rejection cycle.

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Aug 23, 2024

2 down / 5 letters / Herbaceous green pasta sauce

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AF+ Mini Crossword Can Maneuver a Subaru With the Best of Them

Vroom vroom!

Emet Ozar

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Aug 23, 2024

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I’m F*cking a Married Couple Ten Years Older Than Me

“He, too, seems incredibly boring, though he is ten years my senior, a point in his favor. Another point: his wife is dark haired, fat, and blue eyed, thirteen years…

Guest

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Aug 22, 2024

4 across / 4 letters / "Our ___ Means Death" (very gay pirate adventure show)

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AF+ Mini Crossword Is a Gay Pirate

Arrrrrrr(en’t we all though, really?)

Kate Hawkins

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Aug 21, 2024

12 across / 10 letters / Band named for a petulant girl in "Charlie and the Chocolate Factory"

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AF+ Crossword is Well-Seasoned

This puzzle is off the Scoville scale!

Emet Ozar

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Aug 17, 2024

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I Want My Girlfriend To Quit Acting and Get a Job

Are you the asshole for asking your girlfriend to give up her acting dreams and get a real job? Also, we help a reader decide if it’s time to break…

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Aug 16, 2024

4 down / 5 letters / "___ Kelly" (2002 Hillary Duff banger featuring a fabulous extended dance duet in military dress with ribbons and a lot of girl-on-girl tension)

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AF+ Mini Crossword Has Flames on the Side of Its Face

It was the mini crossword in the study with the candlestick!

Kate Hawkins

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Aug 16, 2024

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You’ve Gotta Get Your Hands on the Second Issue of Our Queer Print Magazine

This season's hottest holiday gift — for yourself or the best queers you know — is queer media you can hold…

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya and Riese

Dec 11, 2025

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On Being a Masc Top From Rural Oklahoma

Anonymous

Jul 23, 2025

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The Sex of the Game

Mac Crane

May 15, 2025

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Is It Biphobic To Swear Off Dating Bisexuals?

A reader feels consistently “stung” by women who date men after dating her. Another needs help deciphering an ambiguous situation with someone they’re super interested in.

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She Wants an Open Relationship — and I Think I Know Why

She wants an open relationship and you’re worried that she’s just not that into you anymore. Also; a reader struggling to get over a tumultuous previous marriage and move on from trying to get that girl back.

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My Newly Engaged Straight Best Friend Is Being Gay Towards Me

Should you ask your best friend to stop flirting so hard with you? Also; a reader struggling to find something serious.

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It’s Officially Baby Time But Oops I Changed My Mind

Having children was in your wedding vows — but now the world sucks so bad that you’ve changed your mind. Also: how to eat her out without breaking out.

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