“Too Queer, Too Smart” for Abuse

Queer people aren’t strangers to shame, or to reclaiming one of the darkest feelings a person can carry deep in their gut. Shame is distinct from guilt in that shame is about doing something nonnormative, whereas guilt implies a breach of morality. Still, the consequences of shame can be profound — isolation, stress, secrets. Shame is relative to our surroundings, to the people who have power over us or to the communities we try to find homes in. For this A+ personal essay series, writers wrote about things they can barely whisper to aloud, things they thought was once a blemish that they’ve turned into crown, things that make them feel like a "bad queer", or the ways that other peoples’ shame has woven itself into their life and existence....

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Holly Genovese

Holly Genovese (they/them) is a Ph.D. Candidate in American Studies at UT Austin but hails from Pennsylvania, Maryland, and Virginia. American Studies is unique but they mostly write about art and anti-prison activism academically, which is why In their free time they write/talk/yell about anything else. Find their writing in Teen Vogue, Jacobin, The Washington Post, The Chronicle of Higher Ed, and many other places. They are also a ghost tour guide, a sometimes teacher, an underwear influencer, an artist, a poet, and the servant to their cat Petunia. They read a lot, spend much of their time in the water, and wear really big earrings. They are also proudly neurodivergent and mentally ill. Redditt thinks their glasses are ugly, but Chrissy Teigan used to follow them on Twitter. Follow them on iInsta and Twitter @hollyevanmarie and read more of their work holly-genovese.com.

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