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Help Me Lord I Can’t Afford All These Weddings

What are the rules for plus ones contributing to wedding expenses? Also — is there any point in confessing your…

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Jan 2, 2026

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Help Me Lord I Can’t Afford All These Weddings

What are the rules for plus ones contributing to wedding expenses? Also — is there any point in confessing your feelings to a long-distance crush?

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Jan 2, 2026

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Does My Girlfriend Really Need This Much Alone Time?

Why does my girlfriend need so much time away from me? Also; a reader in their late 30s who’s newly exploring kink.

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Dec 19, 2025

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‘How Do I Cope With Uncertainty and Lack of Control in My Dating Life?’

“At 28 years old, none of my relationships have ever lasted to a year.”

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya

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Dec 16, 2025

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I Feel Weird About My Wife Hiring a Sex Worker

A newly-out asexual isn’t so sure about their wife’s proposal for sex outside the marriage. Also; a reader wants to go to sex parties, but hold the kink.

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Dec 12, 2025

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‘I Can’t Stop Obsessing Over My Girlfriend’s Ex-Girlfriend’

“Recently, I’ve found myself looking her ex’s profile or looking at old pictures of them on my girlfriend’s Instagram multiple times a day. I zoom in on the pictures &…

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya

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Dec 9, 2025

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‘My Wife-To-Be Has Different Cleaning Standards. Is That a Dealbreaker?’

“I honestly want to cry, I am so tired. Every time I bring it up she cries.”

Summer Tao

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Oct 28, 2025

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Can’t a Lesbian Enjoy a Little Straight Porn Around Here?

Your best friend is shaming you for the kind of porn that gets you off. Also; tips on having more threesomes.

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Aug 8, 2025

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I Treat My Wife Like a Barbie Doll and She Likes It

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya and Kristen Arnett discuss the sliding scale of gender expression and how a femme wife is like having an IRL Barbie.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya and Kristen Arnett

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Jul 8, 2025

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Help Me Lord I Can’t Afford All These Weddings

Does My Girlfriend Really Need This Much Alone Time?

‘How Do I Cope With Uncertainty and Lack of Control in My Dating Life?’

I Feel Weird About My Wife Hiring a Sex Worker

‘I Can’t Stop Obsessing Over My Girlfriend’s Ex-Girlfriend’

‘My Wife-To-Be Has Different Cleaning Standards. Is That a Dealbreaker?’

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I Treat My Wife Like a Barbie Doll and She Likes It

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