“I want you to know, if you ever read this, there was a time when I would rather have had you by my side than any one of these words; I would rather have had you by my side than all the blue in the world.”
If you’re feeling sexual desire for friends or if you like the idea of a “friends with benefits” situation, then it seems that most widely-accepted definition of “demisexual” still encompasses your experience. But the more important questions here are: what do you want and why do you want it?
“As wonderful as this time together has been, as close as we’ve gotten, we both know that once the world opens up a bit more, we’ll finally get to have a lot of our “firsts” — and that it may be bittersweet to finally have our first date six months into being a couple.”
“This was after that night, when I moved into the guest room with the little bathroom, when I moved my toiletries onto the shower floor, when I moved all the books I was reading, and my perfume bottles, my department-store boxes filled with eyeliner and lipstick. And I texted my spouse that we were separating and that I had moved into the guest room, and they called me and wanted to come back to the house and I said, ‘No, no, don’t, I don’t want you to,’ and then sat on the front porch smoking, waiting, as I had set the stage for another cinematic moment to happen. And my spouse did not come home.”
“How do I know this isn’t some quarantine induced haze and I’m just projecting my feelings of loneliness onto her?”
Vaginismus can get in the way of essential practices and pleasurable activities, like penetrative sex, penetrative masturbation, inserting tampons or menstrual cups and receiving pelvic exams. But with the right guidance from a doctor and/ or a physical therapist, vaginismus can be treated.
Aries is a sign that wants what it wants, when it wants it. Can this inherently selfish impulse can be harnessed for the greater good?
Being too eager or too worried about saying the right thing can be just as alienating as disapproval.
Remind yourself that your life is your life and that you don’t need validation from her.
Welcome to the most in-depth amazing massive guide to queer-girl star-sign compatibility anywhere in the entire universe. “What’s your sign?” is a totally valid pick-up line, and don’t let anybody tell you otherwise.
The idea that we can all work towards secure attachment regardless of past experiences feels hopeful, and perhaps that’s why queer people, who seem to love analyzing relationships, have found attachment theory so useful.
“I had a kind of dirty dream about you. Do you want to hear about it?” You laugh, and fuck, that sound twists itself inside my chest like a fist. I want to make you laugh more. Your voice drops, somewhere between a whisper and a quake. “It started with me kissing you.”
Being gay in public can be daunting, and it is not only because PDA discourse is fraught with questions of respectability and modesty. No, for us in the LGBTQ+ community, it can be a matter of life and death, so I completely understand your confusion and possible hesitance around showing PDA to your partner.
“I picked up the tentacle attachment and clicked it into place. For a moment, nothing happened – then, the tip began to move, seeking out something to touch, and the entire shaft lit up with sensation.”
Pandemic haircuts, changing your perception around friendships, do you want kids, do you need to know what you’re looking for when dating, feeling weird about not feeling New Relationship Energy, and more!
Thank you so much to everyone who came to the live facilitation of this educational workshop led by Shelli! If you missed it, you can watch the recording here and refer to the provided transcript!
“It’s like, I’m hot, you’re hot, pick something on my profile to talk to me about!”
The Osé got a makeover and is now the The Osé 2 – a dual-stimulating vibrator meant to “mimic the best kinds of human touch.”
My advice for folks who KNOW that they want to break up with their partner is almost always the same: Break up with your partner!
We’ve been working on figuring out how to bring you more content that gives you concrete know-how about queer sex. And we’re ready to make it happen! We’re bringing you a brand new live video series exploring the building blocks of queer sex, led by real queer sex-having people! This month, Shelli Nicole is bringing you a world of knowledge and insight about masturbation in a workshop for A+ members!
“Our wedding plans went on hold when I found myself unable to get out of bed.”