Disability tropes are all rooted in the same failure of imagination. Most writers are simply unable to envision a world where people with disabilities live fulfilling, happy lives.
My acceptance of my own pain allows me to have the kind of sex that is rooted in the specificity of my body. I don’t love the idea that I’ll never fist, but I do love the idea that every act of sex I engage with is collaborative. Queerness reminds me that there is no standard way to fuck or live.
You may have heard Victoria’s recent single in a Nike campaign to promote their Jordan Flyease, a shoe designed for athletes with disabilities. Victoria just dropped her new project “Victoria”. She talks with me about what it means to be an “Asymmetrical Artist,” her shoe deal with Nike, an Academy Awards red carpet rendezvous, and her newest music release!
Why do we talk about care as a scarcity model? How do you live with ~the void~? How do we adjust to changing language for identity and in movements? Is America going to end in 2024? All this and more!
Is a soft butch a soft butch if she can barely hold even herself together? Is a soft butch a soft butch without her swagger?
A. Andrews’ comic A Quick and Easy Guide to Sex and Disability is a well-written, thoughtful, and enjoyable guide that I strongly recommend to all disabled and able-bodied people alike
How many times have you heard that we’re “in a new world” recently? “Disability Visibility” challenges us to consider what a world with disability at its core can look like.
Get your ass into The Ask and Tell Helicopter, it’s time to get schooled about lezzing out!
“Being a woman, having a disability, being Dominican, and finally I can add to that magical layer being queer.” — Welcome to the Magic Club, Jillian!
I don’t think anyone looks at the introverted, disabled woman, and thinks she’s powerful. But my family chose to. They are the reason that I can pushback against the stereotypes society holds for a quiet blind woman, and assert my place in this world. They taught me to swim in the waves.
Watching them sweat from my spa on the sidelines, I’d thank my body. On the one hand, so humiliating; on the other, its own defense mechanism against the wretchedness of exercise.
If you’re looking for easy answers that preserve your bubble, you won’t find them here. But that’s exactly why anyone who considers themselves an activist, an ally, or a member of the resistance writ large needs to read this book.
A true map, it never says: this is the way to go, what to do. Instead, Piepzna-Samarasinha tells us what has worked for some people at some times, what could be done better, and also what went super wrong.
Disabled people have sex. Trust me, I know.
Enjoy these eight books, mostly fiction, about queer disabled women characters!
Why push each other down when we all need some heavy lifting?
“The disability community needs to spend some time asking itself: How are we working together across movements in the progressive space? How are we centering the voices of people with disabilities who are fighting multiple oppressions? How are we embodying sustainability of ourselves in such a time where it seems like the ground underneath us is always shifting and we are drinking not from a fire hose, but from a flamethrower?”
Cooking while disabled is fucking hard; here’s some easy nutrition for you.
The weight of expectation does not belong in bed with you.
The first-of-its-kind study revealed some surprising findings on queer and disabled folks in particular.
Yes, helpful therapists exist! Yes, they are worth it! And yes, they are very hard to find! Stay with me.