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some questions you’ve been asking us

Some Answers to Some Things You’ve Been Asking Us #34

I am (was?) dating the Tenderqueer from “Dykes and Their Emotional Support Albums” who listens to Phoebe Bridgers and they haven’t texted me back since right before Christmas. Did I have it coming?

By The Editors| February 26, 2021 | 10 Comments
The team: Kamala, Sarah, Riese, Laneia, Rachel, Carmen gathers around a table at their last staff retreat, laughing and working on their computers. This image has the 13 Days of A+ treatment with a lavender wash and the A+ logo indicating that it is day 8

Some Answers to Some Things You’ve Been Asking Us #33

This is very last minute but apparently tonight there will be a lunar eclipse during what is called a “full beaver moon,” which just seems like something y’all would be into.

By The Editors| December 20, 2020 | 17 Comments
the team: riese, rachel, sarah, carmen, kamala, and laneia look concerned while staring at their computers

Some Answers to Some Things You’ve Been Asking Us #32

I follow my ex girlfriend’s rabbit on Instagram, but not her or her new girlfriend. Felt I should share.

By The Editors| October 26, 2020 | 7 Comments
The team shares a giggle together. From left to right, Kamala, Laneia, Carmen, Riese, Sarah and Rachel all wear pretty darn happy expressions.

Some Answers to Some Things You’ve Been Asking Us #31

How do non-D&D Discords even work?!

By The Editors| August 19, 2020 | 28 Comments
Riese, Rachel, Carmen, Sarah, Kamala and Laneia all gather round to smile and answer your questions.

Some Answers to Some Things You’ve Been Asking Us #30

Theres been a lot of hate for “hard pants” lately…

By The Editors| June 29, 2020 | 22 Comments
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Some Answers to Some Things You’ve Been Asking Us #29

Good morning to everyone who woke up with the a cappella hand clap chant from Portrait of a Lady on Fire in their head 🔥

By The Editors| April 24, 2020 | 80 Comments

Some Answers to Some Things You’ve Been Asking Us #28

My niche skill is terrifying men on the subway. Let me know if you need details.

By The Editors| February 27, 2020 | 12 Comments

Some Answers to Some Things You’ve Been Asking Us #27

Tell us, do you have any superstitions?

By The Editors| December 12, 2019 | 12 Comments

Some Answers to Some Things You’ve Been Asking Us #26

The one with the Anne of Green Gables fanfic in it.

By The Editors| August 30, 2019 | 26 Comments

Some Answers to Some Things You’ve Been Asking Us #25

Can we please get a “sustainability dyke” pin? I would love that so much.

By The Editors| July 2, 2019 | 48 Comments

Some Answers to Some Things You’ve Been Asking Us #24

“It’s adorable that you thought this book with this premise might have anyone who *isn’t* a lesbian in it!”

By The Editors| March 30, 2019 | 38 Comments

Some Answers to Some Things You’ve Been Asking Us #23

“Little A+ box, I just wanted you to know that today I did my part in helping to burn the patriarchy to the ground.”

By The Editors| January 28, 2019 | 41 Comments

Some Answers to Some Things You’ve Been Asking Us #22

“All horror is queer culture, as is Halloween as you correctly stated, and the 1970s in general, AND all final girls are queer culture in a very specific way that can only be discussed when you’re extremely high during a full moon.”

By The Editors| November 13, 2018 | 39 Comments

Some Answers to Some Things You’ve Been Asking Us #21

How do you make a gif? I need a gif of Shane saying “where do you LIVE Mark??” Do you know the scene Im talking about?

By The Editors| September 12, 2018 | 44 Comments

Some Answers to Some Things You’ve Been Asking Us #20

“Sally? Sally, are you here? Are you selling those shirts?”

By The Editors| August 6, 2018 | 54 Comments

Some Answers to Some Things You’ve Been Asking Us #19

“I’m going to make a shirt that says Rachel Is Right or maybe Listen to Rachel.”

By The Editors| May 10, 2018 | 34 Comments

Some Answers to Some Things You’ve Been Asking Us #18

“Are you familiar with the Jughead Lesbian Style Debacle of 2018.”

By The Editors| March 29, 2018 | 62 Comments

Some Answers to Some Things You’ve Been Asking Us #17

“I don’t know who you are but I’ve never believed in anyone’s ability to reach peak mommi more than you”

By The Editors| January 25, 2018 | 39 Comments

Some Answers to Some Things You’ve Been Asking Us #16

“Out beyond ideas of likable and unlikable comments there is a field. I’ll meet you there. When the soul lies down in that grass the world is too full to talk about.”

By The Editors| December 1, 2017 | 43 Comments

Some Answers to Some Things You’ve Been Asking Us #15

“This is only tangentially related to your question, but I think about the same girl nearly every time I put on mascara.”

By The Editors| September 16, 2017 | 42 Comments

Some Answers to Some Things You’ve Been Asking Us #14

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By The Editors| July 21, 2017 | 45 Comments
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