I wanted to be whole, pure, the person I was supposed to be. I wanted to be good enough that my sexuality wouldn’t matter.
We talked to bi+ women about how they express and stay connected with their queerness while dating cis heterosexual men.
Though there are still those who would keep bi characters off YA shelves, there are also plenty of fantastic young adult graphic novels, fantasy books, contemporary novels, and even nonfiction collections with bisexual characters that find their way into the hands of young readers and adults who appreciate YA. Here are a few essentials to check out during bisexual awareness month.
Bi people’s dating experiences are often complicated by biphobia and sometimes, a feeling of isolation from both queer and straight monosexual people.
With the golden age of women’s red-carpet suiting upon us, who is queer fashion for?
Here’s some of your local bi+ Autostraddle writers and pals weighing in on what we hope to see in a bisexual future. Where do you see us headed? Let us know in the comments!
You don’t need to measure up to any of the things you’ve been taught are the “right” ways to be as a sexual being. There is no way to do sexuality “right” by any objective, external standard.
Get sexually fluid with your fluids with this “Are You The One?” drinking game!
Find out whether Amber and Nour adopt a pet together, and the exciting potential future of Justin the tattooed vet and Max, who Stef lovingly describes as a “sex idiot.”
Mental health, bisexuality, and the great outdoors.
“Often we need the possibility of more not in order to reach it, but in order to stop just short of it, which is still far beyond where we would’ve landed had it not been there at all.”
A brand new gay bar in San Francisco, a lesbian Spice World in Toronto, lesbian meet-cutes, and of course Stephanie Tanner Bisexual.
“Honestly, it’s for younger me who really needed to know that you could be queer and loved by God at the same time.”
Since 2016, the bisexual bob has been taking the bisexual world by storm. But where did this alternative lifestyle haircut begin? And where, pray tell, is it going?
Bestselling author of The Incendiaries is out as bisexual, proud, and giving us big feelings about eyeshadow and representation.
The first time I googled “bisexual history,” one of the top hits was an article called “Are you worried your partner might have a bisexual history?”
This week, the Sun published a fascinating letter in their Dear Deidre advice column, in which a (presumably straight?) (presumably real???) married woman describes falling in love with another young mother at her child’s school and wonders if their tawdry extramarital affair is built to last.
Today we look at a panoply of questions, which, while the situations of their querents are specific and concrete, encompass three of the most common questions we hear in relation to bisexuality: Am I actually bisexual or not? Am I pansexual or something else within the bi+ spectrum? How the fuck do I let people know I’m not straight?
Spanning genre from fiction to essays to memoir, these books are vibrant, boundary-breaking, and as intriguing as they are affirming. I strongly recommend curling up with one of these in your favorite café to celebrate Bisexual Visiblility Day today and all this week — settle in for some miso soup (what Ruby, the heroine of Eating Chinese Food Naked, drinks as comfort food) with maybe some biryani and chai for the second course (from Corona, by Bushra Rehman) and read some of these literary works.
I found a different self slowly, learned to exist as if with many different goggles on at once. Always speaking from my mother’s kitchen in the Silicon Valley and, at the same time, my grandmother’s crowded living room in Punjab. In these years, I would feel the sharpness of many kinds of difference, marginalization. But when I looked down at myself for signs of why I felt so other, all I would find was the color of my hands.