By the time I got out of the pool, I had five messages. Waiting at the light, the slivers of passing headlights passed over the hood of my car like sparks. You’re hot. You have a pretty face. So you’re bi? You could have a three-way with us. What are you up to tonight? You should put up more pictures.
There’s who you’re physically/romantically attracted to, and then there’s who you want to date, and then there’s who you want to sleep with — and all of these can be different things, all of which can also change! Yet we’re expected to align under a single label.
Moana’s Auli’i Cravalho casually comes out as bisexual on TikTok; next thing you know she’ll have an eyebrow slit.
When it comes to my queer desire, my favorite feeling is a juicy lack — I don’t have the person or thing I want and that tastes like salted caramel perpetually not in my mouth. The distance is not only enjoyable, it’s my edge, but sometimes it feels like there’s something missing.
Two bi girls bond over being bi girls! Also, straight people who only speak out against homophobia when it’s convenient for them are! the! worst!
“Right off the top, it’s crucial for me to say this: being monogamous and being bisexual are not mutually exclusive. This is a really problematic stereotype that has to go, like yesterday.”
Being bisexual is lit.
Cheating is a form of escape from our current situation; it allows us to momentarily be with someone else, maybe even be someone else, for a night. Honesty has consequences. Cheating, if we don’t get caught, does not.
Seeing two queer skaters having fun and being themselves, while incorporating dance elements that are so tied to queer history in ice dance, the most heteronormative of the figure skating disciplines, is a thrill. So I asked Karina Manta how she does it.
Congresswoman Katie Hill flipped a Congressional district last year; she has now resigned due to what she calls a “double standard” in politics.
I wanted to be whole, pure, the person I was supposed to be. I wanted to be good enough that my sexuality wouldn’t matter.
We talked to bi+ women about how they express and stay connected with their queerness while dating cis heterosexual men.
Though there are still those who would keep bi characters off YA shelves, there are also plenty of fantastic young adult graphic novels, fantasy books, contemporary novels, and even nonfiction collections with bisexual characters that find their way into the hands of young readers and adults who appreciate YA. Here are a few essentials to check out during bisexual awareness month.
Bi people’s dating experiences are often complicated by biphobia and sometimes, a feeling of isolation from both queer and straight monosexual people.
With the golden age of women’s red-carpet suiting upon us, who is queer fashion for?
Here’s some of your local bi+ Autostraddle writers and pals weighing in on what we hope to see in a bisexual future. Where do you see us headed? Let us know in the comments!
You don’t need to measure up to any of the things you’ve been taught are the “right” ways to be as a sexual being. There is no way to do sexuality “right” by any objective, external standard.
Get sexually fluid with your fluids with this “Are You The One?” drinking game!
Find out whether Amber and Nour adopt a pet together, and the exciting potential future of Justin the tattooed vet and Max, who Stef lovingly describes as a “sex idiot.”
Mental health, bisexuality, and the great outdoors.