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“Being a queer black woman in America”, Monáe tells Brittany Spanos, her interviewer, “someone who has been in relationships with both men and women — I consider myself to be a free-ass motherfucker’”.
“How does one successfully navigate such a dramatic shift in a long-held and cherished identity?! Is it possible to have relationships with men devoid of internalized homophobia, misogyny, etc? Is it worthwhile to tell this person how I feel — could I possibly expect anyone to navigate all this baggage with me?”
Broad City’s Abbi Jacobson told Vanity Fair that she’s single and ready to mingle with men or women.
Fake clothes, dinosaur tracks, Roxane Gay’s latest project, maybe I don’t fully understand hate-reads, Julia Turshen is getting shit done, Kittie the band, the reality of the Pulse massacre, and so much more!
Alyson Stoner, who rose to fame through dancing in music videos and starring on the Disney Channel has come out in a beautifully moving and deeply vulnerable personal essay about falling in love with a woman.
You may have heard about the study this month that says some bi women report higher levels of psychopathy and narcissism — how legit is it really?
Also, Demi Lovato wants Kristen Stewart to call her.
“Sexual justice has to adapt. The alternative is awful.”
“I feel like I’m lying to my my parents, hiding part of myself, and disrespecting my girlfriend by constantly avoiding mentioning her or referring to her as my friend when my parents ask what’s going on in my life. Of course, I know coming out can be difficult in general, but I’m wondering if you have any advice for coming out in the context of a toxic family relationship? How can I best protect myself from the inevitable insults, yelling, and criticism while still being honest?”
Rosa’s full coming out on Brooklyn Nine-Nine is rocky and bittersweet, incorporating uniquely bisexual experiences to cement itself as a uniquely historic TV moment.
I wonder why the story of a bisexual teenage boy is the one that allowed me to explicitly consider my identity as a bisexual adult woman for the first time.
“I was terrified that I was going to receive a bunch of angry phone calls from parents or a visit from the overly religious principal as a result of word getting out that I didn’t fit the heteronormative cookie cutter mold that all of the other teachers at the school did.”
Demi talks about her struggles with addiction and mental health, her winding career path, and how she’s openly dating men and women in her new documentary “Simply Complicated,” available for free on YouTube.
Perhaps Demi Lovato would like to take you down into her paradise; she is not scared that you’re her body tyyyyyyyyype.
“In the LGBTQ community there’s not a lot of people coming out saying ‘I am bisexual,’ and I wanted to do that, because it really has been helpful for me to see other people out there with influence talking about their sexual orientation in a way that made sense to me.”
How do we want to be seen in our daily lives? How much control do we really have over it? How do we make ourselves visible in a world that often chooses not to see us clearly, and what risks and complications come with it? There’s no one answer, which is why we had all these Autostraddle staffers who identify somewhere under the bisexual umbrella talk about it for you!
“For me, listening to music has always been a source of power, especially when the music I listen to is by other bi and queer folks.”
“I watched her zip up her white dress in the mirror; I watched her cross and uncross her legs; I watched her, and my friends watched her, and in the movie we were watching the other characters, men and women, watched her. I hated her so much, and so purely, with such satisfaction. I couldn’t look away.”
In general, my bi friends understand the alienation, erasure and self-doubt that comes with being bisexual in a “can’t you just pick one” world. By seeing and believing each other’s negative experiences, we help each other reduce the harm of those things.