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The Ultimatum: Queer Love’s Bridget Matloff on What the Cameras Didn’t Show You

Bridget Matloff speaks on friendship with Gabby Windey, pressures of reality TV, thoughts on marriage, gender roles, and yes, haircare.

Gabrielle Grace Hogan

Sep 8, 2025

FIRST PERSON

I Was Already Afraid of My Inbox. Then a Death Threat Came

The deadline for my compliance with the “blackmail” had already passed. It was supposed to…

Nico

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Aug 13, 2025

FIRST PERSON

On Being a Masc Top From Rural Oklahoma

You’ve fucked every lesbian sorority girl in Oklahoma, someone tells me on an app. Well,…

Anonymous

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Jul 23, 2025

PARENTING & FAMILY

A Breastfeeding Journey Of a Thousand Miles Begins With a Single Baby Step

“I woke up feeling like someone had run me over with a truck and I…

Riese

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Jul 10, 2025

first person

I Was Already Afraid of My Inbox. Then a Death Threat Came

The deadline for my compliance with the “blackmail” had already passed. It was supposed to be noon.

Nico

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Aug 13, 2025

first person

On Being a Masc Top From Rural Oklahoma

You’ve fucked every lesbian sorority girl in Oklahoma, someone tells me on an app. Well, I said. Probably not all of them, right?

Anonymous

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Jul 23, 2025

parenting & family

A Breastfeeding Journey Of a Thousand Miles Begins With a Single Baby Step

“I woke up feeling like someone had run me over with a truck and I thought, “I guess this is motherhood.” And probably would’ve died thinking that.”

Riese

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Jul 10, 2025

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Help! I’ve Gotten ‘The Ick’ for My Girlfriend

Advice for suddenly feeling unattracted to your girlfriend, having your first ever crush on a cis dude, and finding a sex therapist.

the team

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Apr 5, 2024

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AF+ Crossword Is Sorry Not Sorry

How do flat-earthers travel?

Kate Hawkins

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Mar 30, 2024

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Is Refusing To Share My Location a Red Flag?

A request from a younger girlfriend has a reader wondering if her aversion to location sharing is a generational conflict. Also: how to keep a relationship sexy without sex and…

the team

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Mar 29, 2024

9 down / 3 letters / clue: "___ of Me" (PJ Harvey song)

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AF+ Crossword Sparks Joy

I tried to watch the orchestra on tv with my kids but we had to turn it off.

Darby Ratliff

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Mar 23, 2024

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I Think My Girlfriend Is Drugging My Dog

In this week’s advice box, a relationship plagued by dog problems and possible dishonesty, how to support a partner convinced they’re worthless without a job, and safe sex for poly…

the team

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Mar 22, 2024

First Four Contests of the 2024 Autostraddle March Madness

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AF+ Members: Pick the Winners of the Autostraddle March Madness First Four

La Brea’s Izzy vs. Bel-Air’s Ashley Banks! Dare Me’s Beth vs. Big Shot’s Mouse! Gen V’s Marie vs Jordan! Everything Sucks’ Emaline vs. Ginny & Georgia’s Max! Are you ready…

Natalie

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Mar 16, 2024