I’ll Never Walk Away: Writing About Motherhood From Imperfect Circumstances

Since I started writing professionally in 2016, I have used parts of my life in my work. Personal essays were the place I found my footing as a writer. It came at a time when I really needed it — I was a single mom to a toddler, had just ended a six year relationship, and was living with my parents. I wrote through everything: my parenting struggles, my financial woes, my relationship with my mom, my friendships.

I’m pretty unashamed about what I write about. Writing is my way of processing things in my life. Whether I’m writing through an experience or sharing an experience I’ve already been through, I can go back and remember where I was at and how far I’ve come since. Some would question why I need to publish my writing if I’m using i...

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Sa'iyda Shabazz

Sa'iyda is a writer and mom who lives in LA with her partner, son and 3 adorable, albeit very extra animals. She has yet to meet a chocolate chip cookie she doesn't like, spends her free time (lol) reading as many queer romances as she can, and has spent the better part of her life obsessed with late 90s pop culture.

Sa'iyda has written 71 articles for us.