Shame as a Black, Autistic Queer Elder

Queer people aren’t strangers to shame, or to reclaiming one of the darkest feelings a person can carry deep in their gut. Shame is distinct from guilt in that shame is about doing something nonnormative, whereas guilt implies a breach of morality. Still, the consequences of shame can be profound — isolation, stress, secrets. Shame is relative to our surroundings, to the people who have power over us or to the communities we try to find homes in. For this A+ personal essay series, writers wrote about things they can barely whisper to aloud, things they thought was once a blemish that they’ve turned into crown, things that make them feel like a "bad queer", or the ways that other peoples’ shame has woven itself into their life and existence....

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Gloria Jackson-Nefertiti

Gloria Jackson-Nefertiti (she/her) is a Black, queer and autistic published writer, presenter, and breast cancer survivor, the 2013 diagnosis of which showed her how short life is, serving as the catalyst that caused her to come out as sex-positive, bisexual and polyamorous. Her upcoming memoir is called, "A Different Drum: A Black, Autistic, Polyamorous, Mentally Ill, Former Fundamentalist Christian/Cult Member and Breast Cancer Survivor WHO JUST WANTS TO FIT IN."

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