Be the cool queer cousin you wished for as a kid, the polite way to turn someone down, sex is still great without an orgasm, creating your own queer community when you feel alone in the world, and 20 other questions from everyday readers like you!
“Sometimes with people my age it’s like are you gay or do you just live in a major city.”
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“I don’t know how to explain what that did to my guts, unless you know exactly what I mean in which case youknowwhatImean. It was so mind-blowing.”
“38. welcome to sex.com!”
“I’ll answer that. It’s because your boyfriend compelled me to act like a psychopath.”
“i love it when middle age white women lose their shit and yell in lengthy monologues, too”
We’ve got huge markdowns all over the Autostraddle store right now and if you’re an A+ member, you are REALLY in luck because you’re getting the biggest markdown this side of Autostraddle!
Tell us, do you have any superstitions?
“Lol yes just got off work and ready for dyke shit”
“Sometimes I just want to light an entire pack of cigarettes, put them in my mouth and run around naked.”
On December 4th, “To L and Back” is doing a live recording in Los Angeles with the cast of “The L Word: Generation Q” and we’d love to see you there!
“Queer culture is being stressed about the Supreme Court AND being stressed about your ex texting you to see how you’re feeling about the Supreme Court.”
“hey i’m adding the search terms to the newsletter and just curious, what is “gazelle style sex”??????”
First of all: Clean your sex toys! Also: homophobia at your day job, supporting your friend when they leave an abusive relationship, and how to start dating when… you’ve absolutely never dated before.
The one with the Anne of Green Gables fanfic in it.
“to be extremely fair i’d let bette porter run me over with a honda”
“megan rapinoe’s leather shorts and a tux jacket ONLY look is exactly what a 7 year old might negotiate to be able to wear to a fancy thing, and i love it.”
This Month: Proper protocol for casual sex with strangers, combating internalized fatphobia, lots of trans feelings, and how to apologize when its 100% your fault. Plus, what to do when it’s time to divorce him and come out already!
Can we please get a “sustainability dyke” pin? I would love that so much.