Help! I’ve Gotten ‘The Ick’ for My Girlfriend

Is It Classic Lesbian Bed Death?

Q:

I'm worried I got "the ick" for my girlfriend and now it's over.

I've been dating my girlfriend for about 2 years and at first our sex life was awesome. I couldn't get enough of her, of her smile her body. But a few months ago, I just started having a lot of reactions to her physically that I can only describe as being slightly grossed out? I've just been pretending they don't exist. It's things like being turned off by the way she smells (perfectly normally - but by like, her unique smells, by her body having smells), the way she acts during sex or even by her touching me.

I don't have any reason for this to have happened? I feel like this is really not a good situation to try speaking...

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