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The Ultimatum: Queer Love’s Bridget Matloff on What the Cameras Didn’t Show You

Bridget Matloff speaks on friendship with Gabby Windey, pressures of reality TV, thoughts on marriage, gender roles, and yes, haircare.

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Sep 8, 2025

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I Was Already Afraid of My Inbox. Then a Death Threat Came

The deadline for my compliance with the “blackmail” had already passed. It was supposed to…

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Aug 13, 2025

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On Being a Masc Top From Rural Oklahoma

You’ve fucked every lesbian sorority girl in Oklahoma, someone tells me on an app. Well,…

Anonymous

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Jul 23, 2025

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A Breastfeeding Journey Of a Thousand Miles Begins With a Single Baby Step

“I woke up feeling like someone had run me over with a truck and I…

Riese

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Jul 10, 2025

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I Was Already Afraid of My Inbox. Then a Death Threat Came

The deadline for my compliance with the “blackmail” had already passed. It was supposed to be noon.

Nico

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Aug 13, 2025

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On Being a Masc Top From Rural Oklahoma

You’ve fucked every lesbian sorority girl in Oklahoma, someone tells me on an app. Well, I said. Probably not all of them, right?

Anonymous

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Jul 23, 2025

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A Breastfeeding Journey Of a Thousand Miles Begins With a Single Baby Step

“I woke up feeling like someone had run me over with a truck and I thought, “I guess this is motherhood.” And probably would’ve died thinking that.”

Riese

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Jul 10, 2025

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It’s Officially Baby Time But Oops I Changed My Mind

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26 across / 9 letters / Torrey Peters novel about lumberjacks engaged in gender exploration

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AF+ Crossword Learned the Word ‘Foofaraw’ Today

The more you know!

Emet Ozar and Rachel

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Jun 14, 2025

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I Actually Don’t Need to Hear About Your Trans Allyship!

Your friends are on your side and they can’t wait to tell you about it! Also, we help a trans reader who’s nervous about international travel.

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Jun 13, 2025

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The Polyamorous NYC Couple with a Daddy / Baby Girl Dynamic

Group sex, mutual masturbation, radical honesty, and lots of oral! The classics, really.

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Jun 10, 2025

9 down / 4 letters / Honey wine (beverage that the "Redwall" books made 90s kids think would be FAR more prevalent in the adult world than it turned out to be)

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AF+ Crossword Has Unrealistically High Beverage Expectations

Thanks a lot, Brian Jacques.

Kate Hawkins and Rachel

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Jun 7, 2025

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My Queer Friends Are Mean About How Skinny I Am

Is it ever ok to comment on another person’s body? Also, we help a reader with a loud late-night roommate.

the team

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Jun 6, 2025

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I Don’t Think You’re Stupid. I Just Think I Know More About Movies

“If I express that opinion, it’s not to say someone who did connect with the new film is wrong. We just had different experiences of a work of art based…

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Jun 5, 2025

1 across / 4 letters / Something to be solved by Cordelia Cupp

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AF+ Crossword Is Applying for the Role of ‘Bottom Chef’

Please pack your knives and go.

Rebecca Goldstein and Rachel

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May 31, 2025

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What If I’m Totally Fine with the Space Between Us?

Your mom wants to braid friendship bracelets and you want to disappear into adulthood. Also, we help a reader embrace queer romance novels!

the team

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May 30, 2025

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You’ve Gotta Get Your Hands on the Second Issue of Our Queer Print Magazine

This season's hottest holiday gift — for yourself or the best queers you know — is queer media you can hold…

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya and Riese

Dec 11, 2025

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On Being a Masc Top From Rural Oklahoma

Anonymous

Jul 23, 2025

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The Sex of the Game

Mac Crane

May 15, 2025

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Is It Biphobic To Swear Off Dating Bisexuals?

A reader feels consistently “stung” by women who date men after dating her. Another needs help deciphering an ambiguous situation with someone they’re super interested in.

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She Wants an Open Relationship — and I Think I Know Why

She wants an open relationship and you’re worried that she’s just not that into you anymore. Also; a reader struggling to get over a tumultuous previous marriage and move on from trying to get that girl back.

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My Newly Engaged Straight Best Friend Is Being Gay Towards Me

Should you ask your best friend to stop flirting so hard with you? Also; a reader struggling to find something serious.

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It’s Officially Baby Time But Oops I Changed My Mind

Having children was in your wedding vows — but now the world sucks so bad that you’ve changed your mind. Also: how to eat her out without breaking out.

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