Interview With My Ex-Girlfriend: MA

Welcome to Interviews With My Ex-Girlfriend in which Autostraddle writers get back in touch with their ex-girlfriends to ask them Five Simple Questions:

How long did we date?
Why did we break up?
What did you learn from our relationship?
What do you miss most about me?
Would you invite me to your wedding (why/why not)?

I met MA (which is actually what everyone calls her, "em-ey," and is not an attempt to shield her identity) in 2004, two weeks before I started my freshman year in college. I'd arrived early to school for pre-season training with the soccer team, and because our dorms weren't available yet the rest of the girls on the team had to house the incoming freshman. I was assigned to stay in her apartment.

With the aggressive push of a schedule that required us to be around each other every day for at least eight hours a day, we quickly went from being friends to something else, although I wasn't totally sure what. I knew she'd dated women before an...

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