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The Ultimatum: Queer Love’s Bridget Matloff on What the Cameras Didn’t Show You

Bridget Matloff speaks on friendship with Gabby Windey, pressures of reality TV, thoughts on marriage, gender roles, and yes, haircare.

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Sep 8, 2025

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I Was Already Afraid of My Inbox. Then a Death Threat Came

The deadline for my compliance with the “blackmail” had already passed. It was supposed to…

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Aug 13, 2025

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On Being a Masc Top From Rural Oklahoma

You’ve fucked every lesbian sorority girl in Oklahoma, someone tells me on an app. Well,…

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Jul 23, 2025

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A Breastfeeding Journey Of a Thousand Miles Begins With a Single Baby Step

“I woke up feeling like someone had run me over with a truck and I…

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Jul 10, 2025

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I Was Already Afraid of My Inbox. Then a Death Threat Came

The deadline for my compliance with the “blackmail” had already passed. It was supposed to be noon.

Nico

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Aug 13, 2025

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On Being a Masc Top From Rural Oklahoma

You’ve fucked every lesbian sorority girl in Oklahoma, someone tells me on an app. Well, I said. Probably not all of them, right?

Anonymous

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Jul 23, 2025

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A Breastfeeding Journey Of a Thousand Miles Begins With a Single Baby Step

“I woke up feeling like someone had run me over with a truck and I thought, “I guess this is motherhood.” And probably would’ve died thinking that.”

Riese

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Jul 10, 2025

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It’s Officially Baby Time But Oops I Changed My Mind

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My Girlfriend Won’t Give Me Her Money

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I Suddenly Hate Aging and It Makes Me Feel Like a Bad Lesbian

I don’t know when I became a vain person, but I swear I used to be better. Becoming a competitive athlete in my thirties has not helped.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya

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May 28, 2025

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The Monogamous Newlyweds in Jersey City Who Might Be Open to a Threesome

Marin and Leigh are in their early thirties, don’t really wear heels (but could probably make it work), and still really love sex in a car!

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May 27, 2025

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AF+ Crossword Is Craving Pizza Rolls For Some Reason

And also trying to enroll in French classes…?

Emet Ozar and Rachel

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May 24, 2025

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Is There a Chill Way To Tell Your Girlfriend They Smell Bad?

This is a touchy subject! What should you say? When should you say it? Also, how to deal with body dysmorphia on video calls.

the team

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May 23, 2025

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Why Do I Define Transness By Rejection?

My trans story is no longer one of romantic rejection and yet these films are still where I project connection.

Drew Burnett Gregory

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May 22, 2025

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Dykes Discuss ‘The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives’

Two lesbian “scholars” of reality television weigh in on season two of The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives. Who’s the best villain? Who seems GAY? Let’s discuss.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya and Christina Tucker

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May 20, 2025

astrology, tarot & witchcraft

Queer Tarot Reading: What Summer Has in Store for Your Love Life

Plus, ever dream about cults? It might mean it’s time for you to break free of social conformity and embrace difference.

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May 19, 2025

28 across / 5 letters / HBO series starring Jean Smart and Hannah Einbinder

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AF+ Crossword Gets Snarky

Fastest solver gets a prize!

Rebecca Goldstein and Rachel

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May 17, 2025

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You’ve Gotta Get Your Hands on the Second Issue of Our Queer Print Magazine

This season's hottest holiday gift — for yourself or the best queers you know — is queer media you can hold…

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya and Riese

Dec 11, 2025

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On Being a Masc Top From Rural Oklahoma

Anonymous

Jul 23, 2025

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The Sex of the Game

Mac Crane

May 15, 2025

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She Wants an Open Relationship — and I Think I Know Why

She wants an open relationship and you’re worried that she’s just not that into you anymore. Also; a reader struggling to get over a tumultuous previous marriage and move on from trying to get that girl back.

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My Newly Engaged Straight Best Friend Is Being Gay Towards Me

Should you ask your best friend to stop flirting so hard with you? Also; a reader struggling to find something serious.

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It’s Officially Baby Time But Oops I Changed My Mind

Having children was in your wedding vows — but now the world sucks so bad that you’ve changed your mind. Also: how to eat her out without breaking out.

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My Girlfriend Won’t Give Me Her Money

Who owes who when someone’s got a safety net and someone else doesn’t? Also, is it okay to pocket an inheritance while preaching radical wealth redistribution?

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