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Did My Partner Trick Me Into a Lifetime of Sexless Monogamy?

Welcome to the weekly AF+ Advice Box, in which we answer all the queer and lesbian advice questions from AF+ members who submitted their queries into our AF+ ask box!

So, I tried communicating. And it did not work. My partner and I have said, for years, that we could always discuss polyamory or opening up our relationship, and that it was always potentially on the table. I was solo poly before we started dating and decided to go monogamous for the getting to know each other phase. Then...we just kind of stayed monogamous. Then the pandemic happened.

Lately, we haven’t been having sex. It’s been about six months months because they’ve been having health problems and I’m spending a lot of time supporting them as they go through thei...

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