We answer questions from A+ members about disclosing PTSD while dating, coping with siblings who judge others for choosing to have children, healthy boundaries with partners, body acceptance and more!
The team offers advice to A+ members who asked whether a relationship can make it if you don’t feel you’re sexually compatible, what to do when falling hard for a queer coworker, and more!
Breaking your roommates’ Covid precaution agreement, long-distance relationship panic, formalwear, should you break up with your partner when they’re going through a rough time, and more!
Pandemic haircuts, changing your perception around friendships, do you want kids, do you need to know what you’re looking for when dating, feeling weird about not feeling New Relationship Energy, and more!
What to do when your girlfriend keeps talking about breaking up, considering whether to prepare for a life alone, how to move a conversation off of a dating app, discussing bras with your tween daughter, and more!
Advice for coping with a parent who’s an addict, being accountable to people you’re dating, and more!
What if you don’t like receiving oral sex, but want to? What if you canNOT get your new crush/person out of your head, but need to focus on work? What to do if you’re longing for queer chosen family, but don’t feel like you’ve gotten there, and more!
Grief is not linear, finding help for your top surgery recovery, ways to alleviate feelings of isolation while staying home, and more!
Advice for when you want to nurture a partnership but also honor your independence, for when you’re not sure if you want contact with an ex, on working through discomfort with your own sexuality, and more!
“THIS STEP IS VERY IMPORTANT, DO NOT PUT THE BOILING HOT TEA BAGS ON YOUR EYELIDS!!!” Queer advice on breaking up with someone over social distancing opinions as well as advice on pressure from friends to hang out in-person instead of staying home (during this here pandemic), returning to writing after a betrayal, recovering from a good cry, and more!
Your partner doesn’t want to talk about raising your kids to be anti-racist, longing to reach out to a former friend, and more!
Is it a “friend” coffee or a “date” coffee, unemployed and feeling unmoored, negotiating initiating intimacy in a relationship with two people on the asexual spectrum, you feel like your best friend is making questionable dating decisions, grooming your armpit hair, taking a break from therapy, you’ve never been in a long-term relationship, trying to exist outside of capitalism, possible pelvic floor concerns — and more!
We asked you for the political questions or issues keeping you up at night. From getting started in activism, to questions about phone banking and volunteering, to the Supreme Court and what will happen with the legalization of gay marriage, untangling the United States’ electoral system, talking to your conservative relatives, and more — the Autostraddle team takes on your questions related to the US election. We’re all super stressed, but at least we have each other!
Advice for the cis, presumably het parents of a trans kid, Zoom dating while in the house with your parents, an urban legend and gay panic, gender feelings, squirting ALL of the time, and understanding your expectations in a relationship with someone who is not nearly as out!
Making queer friends in quarantine, holding a candle for your ex, being out as bisexual at work, unpacking a past relationship with boundary issues, poly nesting feelings, roommates who make you feel like a fifth wheel, social media related envy in your creative community, and MORE! Become an A+ Member today to submit your own advice questions, get access to this twice monthly series, and keep Autostraddle going for everyone.
Stating your needs around masturbation in a relationship, moving on from an on-again-off-again relationship, your dad hasn’t worked through his homophobia, and more!
Should you come out to your father who also has narcissistic personality disorder? What do you do with the digital remains of a relationship post-breakup? Navigating privilege, the pandemic and the uprising; feeling “behind” in life, crushing on a quarantine roommate, and more!
Dating and inexperience and some really positive advice about this, grieving while starting graduate school, coping with feelings of jealousy and more!
Worries about a roommate’s mental health, thinking of dating after almost a decade of being single, evangelical parents and bisexuality, what to call your girlfriend when she dominates you, and more.
Broken up with during quarantine, exploring your sexuality in quarantine, feeling concerned about being “okay” in quarantine, sage advice for parents of a non-binary kid and more!
What do I say when I think my friend might be rushing into marriage? Trauma and opening up a relationship, exploring sexually with a long-term partner, feelings about a (possibly straight) quarantine crush, and more!