A girlfriend’s sex-positivity is crossing a line — but it’s a line you don’t even want to have. Also, a reader outed a cheater and now it’s just Drama City!
You bonded over a lesbian identity but now she’s exploring bisexuality, and you’re poly and you really don’t want a cis man in the mix. Plus advice for transitioning from…
Your sister-in-law is being blatantly homophobic — IN JUNE — and your family’s mad that you’re mad about it. Also, we settle a debate for the ages: blinds open or…
Everybody in your family knew you were gonna name your kid after your Mom — but your brother beat you to it. What now? Also, a lesbian cat lover struggles…
You don’t care if she graduated college or not, but either way she’s been lying about it to everyone! Plus advice on dealing with a couple’s fight when they’re also…
Sperm is expensive and you don’t know many “good” men — but you do know one…your wife’s ex. Plus advice on discussing money and mis-matched incomes with friends.
Advice for a reader who’s frustrated with initiating sex, plus upper lip hair removal, and tips for sharing an apartment with a partner queerly and successfully.
How do you talk to a friend about their messy house and personal hygiene? Plus advice for a therapist who is overstepping, soothing oneself during a friend breakup, and tips…
An older lesbian needs advice for coping with dates expecting her to desire penetration, plus advice on the politics of dietary restrictions, finding love while allergic to cats, and the…
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