My Ex Would Rather I Rearrange My Entire Life Than Be Friends

How Long Am I Supposed to Keep This Up?
Q
I know you've given some advice about how to be friends with exes and how it's okay if you don't want to stay friends, but what if you're the one who wants to be friends and the other person isn't interested?
Obviously, I'm gonna respect their boundaries and leave them alone, but in classic queer fashion we have tons of mutual friends. Our respective best friends are dating each other! We're gonna keep running into each other! They've said they don't want to see me, but I don't know how much responsibility I have there. I can try to avoid them, but do I need to miss out on events because I know they'll be there? Do I need to keep telling people to warn them when I'm going to be attending something?
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