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The Ultimatum: Queer Love’s Bridget Matloff on What the Cameras Didn’t Show You

Bridget Matloff speaks on friendship with Gabby Windey, pressures of reality TV, thoughts on marriage, gender roles, and yes, haircare.

Gabrielle Grace Hogan

Sep 8, 2025

FIRST PERSON

I Was Already Afraid of My Inbox. Then a Death Threat Came

The deadline for my compliance with the “blackmail” had already passed. It was supposed to…

Nico

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Aug 13, 2025

FIRST PERSON

On Being a Masc Top From Rural Oklahoma

You’ve fucked every lesbian sorority girl in Oklahoma, someone tells me on an app. Well,…

Anonymous

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Jul 23, 2025

PARENTING & FAMILY

A Breastfeeding Journey Of a Thousand Miles Begins With a Single Baby Step

“I woke up feeling like someone had run me over with a truck and I…

Riese

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Jul 10, 2025

first person

I Was Already Afraid of My Inbox. Then a Death Threat Came

The deadline for my compliance with the “blackmail” had already passed. It was supposed to be noon.

Nico

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Aug 13, 2025

first person

On Being a Masc Top From Rural Oklahoma

You’ve fucked every lesbian sorority girl in Oklahoma, someone tells me on an app. Well, I said. Probably not all of them, right?

Anonymous

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Jul 23, 2025

parenting & family

A Breastfeeding Journey Of a Thousand Miles Begins With a Single Baby Step

“I woke up feeling like someone had run me over with a truck and I thought, “I guess this is motherhood.” And probably would’ve died thinking that.”

Riese

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Jul 10, 2025

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If I Didn’t Initiate Sex in My Marriage, We’d Never Have Sex — Is This Normal?

Advice for a reader who’s frustrated with initiating sex, plus upper lip hair removal, and tips for sharing an apartment with a partner queerly and successfully.

the team

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May 17, 2024

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A Queer Nonbinary Student Leans Into Their “Bi Era” with Kink, Play Parties, Domming, Top4Topping and Pegging

“In the outside world, I dress masc, and skirts feel foreign. But at play parties, I’ve started wearing a tiny top/skirt combo, trusting that for those few hours, my gender…

Guest

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May 15, 2024

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Is It Creepy That I’m So Much Older Than My Entire Queer Friend Group?

Advice for a 49-year-old who’s anxious that she may not be wanted in spaces and social circles where most people are younger than her.

the team

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May 13, 2024

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AF+ Crossword Has Had It! Officially!

What’s this? A crossword written by TWO people?!

Rachel and Kate Hawkins

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May 11, 2024

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My Friend Keeps Getting Romantically Rejected and I Think I Know Why — How Do I Break It To Her?

How do you talk to a friend about their messy house and personal hygiene? Plus advice for a therapist who is overstepping, soothing oneself during a friend breakup, and tips…

the team

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May 10, 2024

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AF+ Crossword Is Out of Corny Jokes

No, really, I (the crossword editor) have finally exhausted all the good bad jokes I can find on the internet.

Emet Ozar

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May 4, 2024

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I’m A Newly Single Older Lesbian Baffled By What My Dates Expect From Me Sexually

An older lesbian needs advice for coping with dates expecting her to desire penetration, plus advice on the politics of dietary restrictions, finding love while allergic to cats, and the…

the team

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May 3, 2024