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The Ultimatum: Queer Love’s Bridget Matloff on What the Cameras Didn’t Show You

Bridget Matloff speaks on friendship with Gabby Windey, pressures of reality TV, thoughts on marriage, gender roles, and yes, haircare.

Gabrielle Grace Hogan

Sep 8, 2025

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I Was Already Afraid of My Inbox. Then a Death Threat Came

The deadline for my compliance with the “blackmail” had already passed. It was supposed to…

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Aug 13, 2025

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On Being a Masc Top From Rural Oklahoma

You’ve fucked every lesbian sorority girl in Oklahoma, someone tells me on an app. Well,…

Anonymous

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Jul 23, 2025

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A Breastfeeding Journey Of a Thousand Miles Begins With a Single Baby Step

“I woke up feeling like someone had run me over with a truck and I…

Riese

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Jul 10, 2025

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I Was Already Afraid of My Inbox. Then a Death Threat Came

The deadline for my compliance with the “blackmail” had already passed. It was supposed to be noon.

Nico

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Aug 13, 2025

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On Being a Masc Top From Rural Oklahoma

You’ve fucked every lesbian sorority girl in Oklahoma, someone tells me on an app. Well, I said. Probably not all of them, right?

Anonymous

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Jul 23, 2025

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A Breastfeeding Journey Of a Thousand Miles Begins With a Single Baby Step

“I woke up feeling like someone had run me over with a truck and I thought, “I guess this is motherhood.” And probably would’ve died thinking that.”

Riese

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Jul 10, 2025

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College Wasn’t the Queer Utopia I’d Expected and Now I’m Lost

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Is It Biphobic To Swear Off Dating Bisexuals?

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She Wants an Open Relationship — and I Think I Know Why

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May 29, 2026

What If All My Lesbian Bed Death Means I’m Not A Lesbian?

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My Newly Engaged Straight Best Friend Is Being Gay Towards Me

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A+ Crossword Knows the Lyrics, I Swear

I just published a book on reverse psychologist.

Emet Ozar

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Dec 23, 2023

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Into the AF+ Advice Box #95: ANXIETIES

Whether it’s anxiety about driving, being perceived as younger at work, bodies and sex, pregnancy, or socializing — we’ve got you with some queer advice!

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Dec 21, 2023

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Unexpected Item in the Bagging Area

“My wife and son didn’t know; no one knew. The guilt crept up when I unloaded the groceries in the kitchen, stolen and paid-for alike.”

Irene Keliher

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Dec 20, 2023

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Anonymous Sex Diary: Tenderness Lingers

“I always worry these older guys are gonna fucking die when I get them to hit poppers with me, especially if they popped a Viagra first.”

Guest

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Dec 17, 2023

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A+ Crossword is Doin’ It

A mansplainer told me “nothing rhymes with orange.”

Rebecca Goldstein

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Dec 16, 2023

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Not Grateful Enough

“Thank you for pushing me down a ramp so quickly that I slammed into a wall.”

Katie

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Dec 15, 2023

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The A+ Pop-Up Discord Server Starts NOW!

Time to hang out and watch Carol!

Nico

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Dec 14, 2023

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What If It’s a Woman?

“We spoke up. Hell, this was post-#MeToo era. We were heroes. I was… a hero. So, why did I feel so much shame when, a year later, a woman sexually…

Reed Motti

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Dec 14, 2023

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You’ve Gotta Get Your Hands on the Second Issue of Our Queer Print Magazine

This season's hottest holiday gift — for yourself or the best queers you know — is queer media you can hold…

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya and Riese

Dec 11, 2025

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On Being a Masc Top From Rural Oklahoma

Anonymous

Jul 23, 2025

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The Sex of the Game

Mac Crane

May 15, 2025

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College Wasn’t the Queer Utopia I’d Expected and Now I’m Lost

College was lonely, and you ended up dropping out — how can you make a better choice next time? Also: a reader wants to know when in the dating process to disclose a desire for children.

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Is It Biphobic To Swear Off Dating Bisexuals?

A reader feels consistently “stung” by women who date men after dating her. Another needs help deciphering an ambiguous situation with someone they’re super interested in.

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She Wants an Open Relationship — and I Think I Know Why

She wants an open relationship and you’re worried that she’s just not that into you anymore. Also; a reader struggling to get over a tumultuous previous marriage and move on from trying to get that girl back.

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My Newly Engaged Straight Best Friend Is Being Gay Towards Me

Should you ask your best friend to stop flirting so hard with you? Also; a reader struggling to find something serious.

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I Was Already Afraid of My Inbox. Then a Death Threat Came

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A Breastfeeding Journey Of a Thousand Miles Begins With a Single Baby Step

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