Welcome back to our Anonymous Sex Diaries series where queer and trans people from around the world let us into a seven day snippet of their sex, love and dating lives.
Coming to terms with my own queerness has possibly been the greatest and worst-timed journey of my life. Despite having spent my entire adult life living in one of the most LGBTQ+ friendly cities in the United States, and hyper-fixating on gender studies in my undergrad years, I somehow made it to my early 30's before realizing that I’m not, in fact, the only straight person in many of my friend groups. When I came out to my husband, he was astonished that someone with my “frightening level of insight” could have missed what was apparently obvious to him. Our decision...
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