Welcome to the 97th edition of Into the AF+ Advice Box, in which we answer all the queer and lesbian advice questions from AF+ members who submitted their queries into our A+ ask box! Here, we answer your questions in a space just for AF+ members, safe from the general public. (No guarantees regarding your ex, however.) Here, the Autostraddle team’s doling out advice on everything from sex and relationships, to friend and family dynamics, career questions, style, and more! We do this column TWICE a month.

Every other AF+ Advice box of the month is themed! This month's (January's) theme is (F)ix My Life. February's theme is breakups. Are you having difficulty financially untangling yourself, are you uncertain of what you did wrong, are yo...