Say My Name, Mey’s My Name Pt. II: Independent (Legally a) Woman

It’s time for another edition of SE(N)O, an essay series on A+ for personal stories we wish we could tell on the accessible-to-our-employers-and-everyone-we’ve-ever-known mainsite, but can’t for personal and professional reasons.

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Last year I wrote about how I chose my name. I also wrote about how my birth name, which was my legal name at the time, still had a lot of power over me, even though I so desperately wanted to free myself from it. When I wrote that, I still had to put my birth name on all legal forms, I still had to show my legal name to bouncers and bartenders and TSA people and police officers.

In that last essay, I really struggled to write and publish my birth name. I thought a lot about whether or not I wanted to let my editors read that essay, and then I struggled some more about whether or not I should tell them not to publish it. It was hard for me to talk about my name like that with so many people. It was hard bec...

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Mey Valdivia Rude is a bisexual Latina trans woman living in Los Angeles. She's a writer, comic consultant and a trans activist. She's a bruja, a femme, a pop princess and she loves comic books, witches, dinosaurs and crying. She has a cat named Sawyer and a very successful twitter.

Mey has written 575 articles for us.