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The Ultimatum: Queer Love’s Bridget Matloff on What the Cameras Didn’t Show You

Bridget Matloff speaks on friendship with Gabby Windey, pressures of reality TV, thoughts on marriage, gender roles, and yes, haircare.

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Sep 8, 2025

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I Was Already Afraid of My Inbox. Then a Death Threat Came

The deadline for my compliance with the “blackmail” had already passed. It was supposed to…

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Aug 13, 2025

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On Being a Masc Top From Rural Oklahoma

You’ve fucked every lesbian sorority girl in Oklahoma, someone tells me on an app. Well,…

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Jul 23, 2025

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A Breastfeeding Journey Of a Thousand Miles Begins With a Single Baby Step

“I woke up feeling like someone had run me over with a truck and I…

Riese

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Jul 10, 2025

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I Was Already Afraid of My Inbox. Then a Death Threat Came

The deadline for my compliance with the “blackmail” had already passed. It was supposed to be noon.

Nico

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Aug 13, 2025

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On Being a Masc Top From Rural Oklahoma

You’ve fucked every lesbian sorority girl in Oklahoma, someone tells me on an app. Well, I said. Probably not all of them, right?

Anonymous

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Jul 23, 2025

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A Breastfeeding Journey Of a Thousand Miles Begins With a Single Baby Step

“I woke up feeling like someone had run me over with a truck and I thought, “I guess this is motherhood.” And probably would’ve died thinking that.”

Riese

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Jul 10, 2025

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Jun 5, 2026

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May 29, 2026

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May 21, 2026

My Newly Engaged Straight Best Friend Is Being Gay Towards Me

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May 15, 2026

It’s Officially Baby Time But Oops I Changed My Mind

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May 8, 2026

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Last Chance to Sign Up for In-Person Meetups: Chicago, Columbus, Orlando and Pittsburgh!

Mark your calendars and get ready to meet fellow members in your city!

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Mar 20, 2023

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A+ Crossword Hopes You Get to Adopt That Puppy

Two antennas got married! The wedding was just OK.

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Mar 18, 2023

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Into the A+ Advice Box #80: GENDER FEELINGS

We have 26 whole questions on all things gender! From parenting to transition to clothing to inclusion and exclusion in queer spaces, and more!

the team

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Mar 17, 2023

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The March 2023 A+ Pop-Up Discord is OPEN

A+ members, let’s hang!

Nico

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Mar 16, 2023

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Editor’s Notes: Bubble Trouble

The queerness found in a lot of these Bubble Trouble essays isn’t necessarily surface-level fizz but something deeper in the gut.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya

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Mar 13, 2023

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A+ Crossword Is a Gay Piece, If You Think About It

Why was the pig covered in ink?

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Mar 11, 2023

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M. Crane Chatted with the A+ Book Club About Tragic Endings, Sports and Future Projects

“and my agent was like what the f*ck?”

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Mar 10, 2023

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Into the A+ Advice Box #79: Dating Women Who’ve Previously Only Been With Men

Advice for coping with your partner’s internalized fat-phobia, wedding vows, navigating social situations and friendships as an autistic person, and more!

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Mar 10, 2023

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You’ve Gotta Get Your Hands on the Second Issue of Our Queer Print Magazine

This season's hottest holiday gift — for yourself or the best queers you know — is queer media you can hold…

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya and Riese

Dec 11, 2025

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On Being a Masc Top From Rural Oklahoma

Anonymous

Jul 23, 2025

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The Sex of the Game

Mac Crane

May 15, 2025

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Is It Biphobic To Swear Off Dating Bisexuals?

A reader feels consistently “stung” by women who date men after dating her. Another needs help deciphering an ambiguous situation with someone they’re super interested in.

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She Wants an Open Relationship — and I Think I Know Why

She wants an open relationship and you’re worried that she’s just not that into you anymore. Also; a reader struggling to get over a tumultuous previous marriage and move on from trying to get that girl back.

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My Newly Engaged Straight Best Friend Is Being Gay Towards Me

Should you ask your best friend to stop flirting so hard with you? Also; a reader struggling to find something serious.

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It’s Officially Baby Time But Oops I Changed My Mind

Having children was in your wedding vows — but now the world sucks so bad that you’ve changed your mind. Also: how to eat her out without breaking out.

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