Is It Crazy To Ask My Brother To Change His Daughter’s Name For Me?

You were going to name your child after your Mom, but then your brother beat you to it.


After so long trying, I’m pregnant, and it’s a Jewish tradition to name our kids after relatives who have passed, and one thing I have been very clear about from basically the week after our Mom died (3 yrs ago) was that I wanted to name my child after her. She has a name that is used for all genders. I was there with her until the end. I took care of her when she was sick for a long time. My brothers were not around barely at all. She was my best friend in the world and much closer to me than my brothers. One of my brothers had another kid after she died and told me “don’t worry, we won’t take your name.” Now, my other brother, his wife just ...

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