“So many people come to the table with preconceived notions about bisexuality — namely that it excludes trans, non-binary and gender non-conforming folks — and if I was out in the world, identifying solely as bisexual, was I coloring how people saw me? Did my definition of bisexuality matter outside my comfort zone?”
I hope those of you who celebrate had a relatively joyous Rosh Hashanah. And now please join me in the High Holy Day of revisiting a Jewish queer woman classic.
Your mom is making this about herself, and it’s not fair to you.
Given that identities are often assumed based on the gender of a person’s current partner(s), how do bi+ folks navigate longterm relationships? What effect does being in a longterm relationship have on a bi+ person’s understanding of self? How does their bi+ identity interact with intersecting identities and those of their partner(s)? How do poly and monogamous relationships differ for bi+ people? All those questions and more are explored in these fiction and non-fiction books about bi+ people!
Libra wants every voice to be heard, every need to be met, for the most vulnerable and marginalized to be lifted up and protected. And as we shift into this new season, Justice demands that we carefully consider beliefs, that we pay attention to the systems that impact us, that we push back against the limits that are harming us. How are you standing up for your community, for those whose voices are so often silenced?
Zaina Arafat’s You Exist Too Much is the bi Arab romance novel l didn’t know I needed. We chat about the book, first-gen traumas, sexual ambiguity and Arab parents.
Last night’s Emmys set the record for most wins by Black actors! Also: a third season for Harley Quinn, a special episode of Euphoria, an ode to Kate McKinnon’s RBG impressions, Ellen’s back with some explanations, and more!
“You know, I was never annoyed that you were gay! I was just glad to know you. If it were the 1940s maybe we would have had a lavender marriage.”
Ratched stabs, cuts, bludgeons, and mutilates what was past. The show is brutal, but provides relief for its queer women. Unfortunately, its characters of color and disabled characters are not granted the same care.
“I had a moment where I was watching this again, and I remembered watching this scene 12 years ago, and I was like, wow, I’m gay. You know?”
I will never again cultivate a romantic relationship with a cis person on purpose, not in this life. I have been hurt too badly, too often, by too many people. T4T only. Inscrutable genders from outer space to the front, those that can be best described as “smell of campfire” && “a great pink shape.” && those best described as “a single chandelier earring dragging across your chest while we fuck.”
Happy Sunday! Rosh Hashanah cheese plates, Roxane Gay on Audre Lorde’s legacy, autumnal sewing, RBG quotes, “Julie and the Phantoms” has a super cute queer romance, God — remember snack time in middle school?? And more!
Dancing around his apartment with a bottle of Dom Perignon in hand, I learned I couldn’t speak for anyone but myself.
All about asexuality, comparing the best queer astrology apps, why sexual health and STI testing still matter in the pandemic, your parents’ divorce could be the reason you have a crappy love life, queer sexting can let you write your body into being and more.
When we’re open to it, giving ourselves honest space to roleplay can be pretty powerful stuff.
“We’re warm, we’re drinking and best of all we’re naked!”
McDaniel’s day-to-day life doesn’t necessarily look that different in quarantine. “When I say I’m going out I’m going to walk in the woods, that’s my main jam. It’s a very grounding time for me in a lot of ways, I’m able to slow down and experience the freedom that I have as a rural queer.”
Ruth Bader Ginsburg, Supreme Court Justice and legendary champion of gender equality, has died.
This week’s Extra! Extra! turns to some devastating immigration news and a look at women’s rights more broadly. This week also brought, perhaps unsurprising, news that the fossil fuel industry knew half a century ago the devastation they would wreak on the planet and did nothing. We also take a look at the state of police brutality globally before turning to a few updates on the upcoming US election.
Also, did you see that Crystal Dangerfield’s girlfriend changed her Twitter handle to “Crystal’s ROY Trophy / Her #1 Fan” and I just CANNOT WITH THE CUTENESS.