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Relationships

American Highway Infrastructure Is Evil and Other Lessons From My Long Distance Lesbian Relationship

Also: Podcasts are extinct — just call your yappy girlfriend!

Gabrielle Grace Hogan November 25, 2024 2 Comments
"Recently, we've been flirting a lot, and my romantic feelings for her have returned."
Dating

‘How Can I Talk to My Friend/Crush About Sexual Compatibility Without Being Weird?’

Does it make sense to suggest talking about how we feel about kissing/ cuddling/ sex-related stuff/etc.? And if so, what’s the best way to go about it respectfully and in an ace-affirming way?

Summer Tao November 19, 2024 1 Comment
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Lesbian Dating Apps

14 Queer People Share Their Favorite Dating Apps and Sites of All Time

For pretty much as long as the internet has existed, queers have used it to find each other. We were online dating before it was the norm.

the team November 13, 2024 10 Comments
key in the door
Relationships

Forget U-Hauling — These Queer Couples Don’t Want To Move In Together At All

You’ve heard the one about lesbians wanting to move in together on the second date, but what about the couples who aren’t looking to move in together at all?

Jillian Angelini November 13, 2024 3 Comments
“I just want to know if it’s possible to find a compromise or if my internal clock is gonna be messed up for the entirety of our relationship.”
Relationships

‘My Partner and I Have Completely Different Concepts of Bedtime’

I really do want to be able to go to bed together.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya November 12, 2024 11 Comments
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Friendship

My Girlfriend and I Did a Boudoir Shoot With Our Gay Bestie and It Was Great for Self-Esteem

There was also something to be said for the beauty of women bonding platonically over sexuality.

Summer Tao November 4, 2024 3 Comments
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Relationships

The Ultimate Guide To Being Happy in a Lesbian Long Distance Relationship

For as long as there are lesbians, there will be lesbians in long distance relationships it seems.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya October 29, 2024 2 Comments
"I can’t help but feel an ick about her constantly mixing up facts about her ex with facts about me."
Dating

‘My Girlfriend Thinks About Her Ex More Than She Thinks About Me’

My girlfriend will say things like “I know you hate Halloween” but here’s the thing: I feel fine about Halloween. It’s her ex who hates Halloween.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya October 29, 2024 2 Comments
"We’re technically having sex but it has gotten very monotonous, almost mechanical, like we're doing a chore."
Sex

‘It’s Not Lesbian Bed Death but Something Like It’

“I don’t want to be like “let’s spice things up!” because for some reason that framing feels so idk…straight? to me.”

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya October 22, 2024 1 Comment
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Dating

11 Queer People Share How They Flirt

“Did Shakespeare teach me how to flirt? MAYBE SO.”

the team October 21, 2024 2 Comments
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Friendship

The Ultimate Guide to Having a Lesbian Crush on Your Friend

Find answers to questions like “should I tell her?” and “what do I do if she’s unavailable?”

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya October 15, 2024 1 Comment
"It shouldn’t matter. But I almost care more about this than I do about the fact that she’s still apparently with the girl she cheated on me with."
Breakups

‘My Ex Is Doing the Art Project We Planned Together Without Me’

Creative jealousy is understandable in a lot of contexts, but especially this one.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya October 15, 2024 6 Comments
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Relationships

Broke and Lonely? “Lavender Marriage” May Be For You!

Gen Zers who are tired of being “broke, single, and lonely” are drawn to the idea of a rebranded “lavender marriage” as a way to enjoy marriage’s practical benefits without all the sex and romance.

Riese October 14, 2024 15 Comments
"As with all lesbian drama, it’s complicated."
Dating

‘The Girl I’m Vibing With Thinks I’m Still Into My Ex’

Queer relationships often don’t take the shape or trajectory of cis-heterosexual ones.

Summer Tao October 8, 2024 16 Comments
"I feel a LOT of sexual desire in an abstract sense, but have no motivation to act on it with anyone in particular, even myself."
Dating

‘I Want a T4T Relationship but Worry About Chaser Behavior’

So, shame about sexuality. Lots of us have some. Some of us have lots.

Summer Tao October 1, 2024
"I keep thinking maybe they're an avoidant personality style and that they'll come back and say they made a mistake and they do want to date me."
Breakups

‘I Can’t Stop Thinking About the What-Ifs With Someone I Dated for Two Months’

While using knowledge about one’s attachment style to build lines of communication with a partner and to manage conflict can be super helpful, letting yourself hang onto false hope because of attachment theory is not going to help you.

Nico September 24, 2024 1 Comment
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Relationships

What Are Mixed Orientation Relationships?

And what can we learn from dating people with sexual orientations different from our own?

Summer Tao September 20, 2024 12 Comments
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Sex

I Asked the Women Who Follow Me on Instagram if They’d Like To Receive Nudes. Here’s What Happened

This started as an exercise in self-love and turned into an exercise in personal connection.

Summer Tao September 10, 2024 4 Comments
"I’ve started hanging out with him less because he’s just annoying at times."
Friendship

‘My Gay Guy Friend Is Rude and Blames It on Gay vs. Lesbian Culture’

“I’ve started hanging out with him less because he’s just annoying at times.”

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya September 10, 2024 2 Comments
"I've never been great at flirting. But even just this chemistry I have with this coworker feels 1,000x easier than when I'm intentionally trying to hit on someone in more of a dating context."
Dating

‘I Can’t Tell if My Coworker Is Flirting With Me but I Kind of Hope She Is’

“At work, we already have a bunch of inside jokes, and we find excuses to hang out during the day between meetings and spend so much of our time messaging each other even when we’re sitting literally a few seats down from each other.”

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya September 3, 2024 2 Comments
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