8 Queer Sexting Experts on How We Digitally Do It
Voice memos, FaceTime, short videos, live photos, nudes, role-playing, classic texting — sexting can look like a lot of different things.
Breaking Up Is Hard To Do
We broke up on a Wednesday at 10 p.m. Any other Wednesday, and we might have been watching a show, taking a bath together, or sitting at our desks in the office we shared.
The Polyamorous NYC Couple with a Daddy / Baby Girl Dynamic
Group sex, mutual masturbation, radical honesty, and lots of oral! The classics, really.
‘My Girlfriend Thinks My Music Taste Is Trash’
She’ll often play recent music and ask me if I know who it is when she knows the answer is no.
How To Have Great Queer Sex in a Tent
The first thing I want to emphasize is that the goal of tent sex doesn’t have to be recreating the normal sex you have in a new location.
My Queer Friends Are Mean About How Skinny I Am
Is it ever ok to comment on another person’s body? Also, we help a reader with a loud late-night roommate.
The Monogamous Newlyweds in Jersey City Who Might Be Open to a Threesome
Marin and Leigh are in their early thirties, don’t really wear heels (but could probably make it work), and still really love sex in a car!
Is There a Chill Way To Tell Your Girlfriend They Smell Bad?
This is a touchy subject! What should you say? When should you say it? Also, how to deal with body dysmorphia on video calls.
What Is Consensual Non-Consent Kink?
Consensual non-consent (CNC) is an umbrella term for fantasies and sex acts that mimic dubious or otherwise compromised consent.
Hold Up, Can My Friend Date My Ex?
She broke your heart and now she’s dating your friend and everyone says it’s 100% legal, like what the fuck. Also, we help a reader gently set some misophonia boundaries with a loud eater!
Working Girls: Luxury Escort Charlie Levine on the Rise of Women Clients In Sex Work
“Women are so socialized — successfully or not — to be objects of desire, not subjects of desire, on a sexual marketplace.”
The Mid-30s Divorcées Who Once Built a Sex Throne
From the friend zone to the throne room, a tale as old as time.
‘Talking About Sex Gives Me Literal Hives’
“I’ve tried so many things. Closing my eyes while talking. Getting drunk. I just can’t get there.”
There’s Nothing Wrong With Being a Third Wheel
You can blame it on avoidant attachment or being a Sagittarius, but exclusion can be incredible.
12 Queers on Where We Fall on the Polyamory/Monogamy Scale
Monogamy and polyamory exist on a spectrum and often aren’t fixed black-and-white categories.
Please Stop Telling My Older Girlfriend Not to Date Me
How to cope when social commentary has your older girlfriend wondering if she’s a pervert for dating you. Plus, what if your brother’s line in the sand is not yours?
Queer Love Knows No Borders but Tell That to the U.S. Government
Whether leaving the U.S. or trying to get back, terrified or resigned, every queer person I spoke to in an international long distance relationship says they feel less at ease to travel.
How To Make Sending Nudes Your Love Language
My dual-citizenship as a rampant slut who loves sending nudes and a sex worker deeply concerned with safety makes me oddly well-positioned to talk about it. Here are some crucial hows and ifs of sending nudes as one of your love languages.
Our Best Memories With Our Worst Exes
Even bad relationships contain good memories.
‘I’m a Switch Having Trouble Initiating Topping’
My partner has a high libido and I have a relatively low one.