Sensory Deprivation BDSM for Beginners
Adding sensory play to your repertoire opens a landscape of activities that combine seamlessly with everything already present.
Untethered: Visiting Other Peoples’ Families and Unhinged Horse Lesbians
She grabbed my hand and smashed a tomato with her homemade caesar dressing into my palm.
I Immediately Feel Shame, Sadness After Masturbating
It’s 2024, am I the only one left on the planet who feels enormous shame after self-pleasure?
I Finally Met Someone Cute IRL — Now What Do I Do?
“For years I’ve been wishing I could meet someone organically, off the apps, and now that that’s happened I have no idea what I’m doing!”
Should You Delete Your Ex?
There’s nothing an iPhone loves more than forcing a slideshow of your ex on you when you least expect it.
A Love Letter to Cuddle Dates
I love cuddle dates because they’re my neurodivergent heaven: comfy and quiet. They also fit into anti-heteronormative approaches to romance and affection.
How To Know When To Block Your Ex on Social Media
You can choose to block an ex for any reason, but here are some things to consider as well as alternatives for post-breakup social media protocols.
How To Improve a Queer Sex Marathon
Have we given thought to making marathon sex more comfortable? I love a spontaneous romp, but a few basic preparations can go a long way.
How To Kill Lesbian Bed Death
Read stories from other folks experiencing periods of no sex in relationships to start killing lesbian bed death at the root.
Why Are So Many Trans Mascs Pups?
When a couple trans masc friends are into pup play, it’s a coincidence. When half of the trans men I know are into it, it’s a pattern. I began to mentally set up a bulletin board with red string to solve one question: why are so many trans mascs pups?
How Do I Approach Sex With My Partner of Six Years While We’re Both Navigating Trauma?
The lack of sex that resulted from our wildly differing needs has had a lasting impact.
How Do I Re-Friend-Zone My Friend After the Worst Sex of My Life?
Advice on how to stay friends when the friend you hooked up with wants more, flagging with carabiners, and whether it’s okay if your wife is your only IRL friend.
The Best Breakup Advice You’ll Ever Get
“The world is supposed to feel as though it is ending and you are supposed to know only in the most dormant recesses of the backmost corner of your soul that it will not be like this forever.”
Is Monogamy Cool Again?
Is the era of polyamory over? Are more queer people returning to monogamy? Or is it just a shift in the cultural conversation?
How Do I Learn To Trust Again After My Two-Month Situationship Ended Abruptly?
“I’m a cis queer woman in my mid-twenties, and I’m mourning yet another 2-3 month-long relationship that ended unexpectedly, and this time it’s messing with me in the way the others haven’t.”
After 11 Years Together, My Partner Suddenly Wants To Call Off Our Engagement
“I feel like I’ve built a whole personality around accommodating her schedule: apologizing for her absences and filling in for what she doesn’t make time for (cooking, housework).”
37 Quotes From Queer Authors About Heartbreak, Loss and Moving the F*ck On
“Even as I hold you, I am letting you go.”
You Need Help: I Live With My Partner and Their Ex-Girlfriend and It’s Getting Hard
“I’m a lesbian in my early twenties and I have been in a relationship with my enby partner for a year and a half. We share a flat with several other (queer) people in Copenhagen, one of whom is my partner’s ex-girlfriend.”
Cheating Is Not Abuse
Consensual sex between adults should never be treated as a crime. It might be a horrible betrayal; it’s still not abuse.
You Need Help: How Do I Get More Comfortable With Dirty Talk?
We learn so much about how people act during sex from TV and movies, and those people always seem to know exactly when to moan or how to say the right thing during sex. Of course they do — it’s been written for them!