‘I Haven’t Felt a Spark With Anyone Since My Ex’
“is it leading someone on to keep repeatedly seeing them and going on dates if I’m unsure about them?”
I’m Monogamous, They’re Polyamorous, Can We Make It Work?
You don’t want to lose them or change them, but you sure do wish you could make them be monogamous! Also: advice on breaking the rejection cycle.
I’m F*cking a Married Couple Ten Years Older Than Me
“He, too, seems incredibly boring, though he is ten years my senior, a point in his favor. Another point: his wife is dark haired, fat, and blue eyed, thirteen years older than me. I like the way her pink mouth draws my attention in all her photos. “
‘How Do I Date When I’m Attracted to Hardly Anyone?’
“I’ve been out and queer for a long time now, and I get quite a bit of attention from people. I have a lot of self-confidence and if I’m into somebody, I’m not afraid to make a move. My problem, though, is that I’m just never into anybody.”
I Want My Girlfriend To Quit Acting and Get a Job
Are you the asshole for asking your girlfriend to give up her acting dreams and get a real job? Also, we help a reader decide if it’s time to break up.
The Many Ways Trans Women Find Sapphic Love
“As a trans woman, lesbian is about how I understand my gender as completely separate from men. I don’t ascribe my gender to perform for men. It gives me space to say that my attraction and my identity exists outside the bounds of what a man finds desirable.”
‘I’m Married, My Ex Just Said She’s in Love With Me, and I Don’t Know What To Do’
“I’ve done a lot of processing, but I am super confused. I don’t know what feelings are memories from the past and what is today.”
I Thought The Breakup Would Make Me Feel Better — But I’ve Never Felt Worse
Just wondering if anyone else has an ex who is a good and wonderful person who they feel crazy for breaking up with? And also what kinds of plants should a curious cat owner buy?
‘Quarantine Was Great for My Relationship’
“How do we get back to where we were without literally going back to where we were during lockdown?”
I Don’t Love Gay Marriage but I’m Officiating My Friends’ Gay Wedding
Oh, I love attending weddings. Yes, yes. Flirting with a bridesmaid is like a Top 10 activity for me. But marriage does not fit snugly into my personal definition of queerness.
I Think My Girlfriend Is Cheating On Me With Her Work Wife
The knowing glances, the closeness, the fact that she’s your girlfriend’s type…??? Also, can you transition from exes to friends with a longterm gf if you’re still really mad?
How To Reframe Masturbation As ‘Solo Sex’
Like all sex acts, masturbation isn’t just about sex.
‘I Want To Break Up With My Girlfriend but We’re Co-Workers’
“Feeling like I can’t break up with her is making me so unhappy, which makes me want to break up more!”
I Read My Girlfriend’s Diary and Now I’m Using It To My Advantage
The intel you gathered has improved your relationship, but can you come back from this sin? Plus advice for gender expansive workplace dialogue!
‘I Only Want To Top During Sex and My Partner Is Taking It Personally’
“I recently mentioned to my partner that I want to have a (temporary) break from receiving during sex in order to give myself space to be with my body fully, which didn’t go over terribly well.”
Is My Butchness Ruining Our Relationship?
Your style is leaning more masculine these days, and compliments from your girlfriend have dried up. Also we share reading recs on the topic of gender and desire!
‘My Wife Is in the Early Stages of Transitioning, and I Feel Weird About Keeping Her Identity a Secret’
“It feels like she’s never going to be fully out and that this is just how the rest of our life together is going to be.”
My Friend Expects Me To Hate Their Ex. I Just Can’t Do It.
A breakup within the friend group has spawned a lil’ ethics crisis! Plus, what the f*ck do you do when everything’s changed and you don’t know what you want anymore?
‘How Do I Transition My Failed Situationship Into a Friendship?’
“I know saying my situationship broke up with me a week ago and we’re trying to be friends already is probably the most lesbian-coded sentence on the planet…”
I Moved In With My Girlfriend and Now I Don’t Like Them Anymore
You moved in with your girlfriend and now she’s annoying the f*ck out of you. Also; some major small-town poly drama!