Is My Butchness Ruining Our Relationship?

Does leaning more into my masculine side mean that my girlfriend isn't as attracted to me?
Q:
Me and my girlfriend are both cis lesbians in our 30s, have been together for four years and the way she has reacted to some of my fashion choices lately is causing me some distress. I‘ve been experimenting with more masculine looks as I grow more comfortable and confident with myself in my queerness. We recently were invited to a wedding and I was so happy to show her the suit, my first suit, that I’d gotten to wear. She just said something like, “I thought you were going to wear a dress.” I asked her why she thought that, she said because I always wear dresses to weddings.
When I asked what she’d think if I got a short haircut, she said she likes...

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