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Breakups

You Need Help: How Do I Overcome the Feeling I’ll Never Find Someone After a Breakup?

I think we all need to shift away from the idea that the sole definition of a successful relationship is one that lasts forever.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya September 5, 2023 4 Comments
Sex

What Does It Mean to Be a “Bottom” or “Submissive” in Lesbian Sex?

What does it mean when to identify as a “bottom” or a “submissive” in queer sex? I come armed with data and some very vague answers.

Riese September 5, 2023 67 Comments
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Remembering Deborah Sundahl, Lesbian Porn Pioneer

Two months ago, we lost Deborah Sundahl — a fierce, compassionate, and prolific queer elder.

Desirae August 30, 2023 6 Comments
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Relationships

You Need Help: My Partner and I Aren’t Having Sex — How Can I Still Foster Intimacy?

Sometimes in long-term relationships, our needs shift and/or our capacity to fulfill someone’s needs shift.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya August 29, 2023 9 Comments
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Friendship

Rules for Being the Gay in the Wedding Party

I’ve been that one single, queer friend in the bridal party countless times.

Em Win August 25, 2023 22 Comments
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Dating

Going With the Flow: Red Flag or Hottest Quality?

Please just say how you feel!!!!

Em Win August 22, 2023 7 Comments
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Friendship Relationships

You Need Help: Am I Her Best Friend or Am I Being Emotionally Manipulated?

It’s possible your needs and views when it comes to intimacy are incompatible.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya August 22, 2023 10 Comments
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Health Sex

Endometriosis No Longer Keeps Me From My Best Queer Sex

For the first time I was able to experience, without pain, the feeling of having my partner’s fingers inside of me and we found a new level of intimacy and excitement… How did I spend an entire decade of my life letting the medical system tell me that constant pelvic pain was acceptable?

Guest August 15, 2023 11 Comments
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Breakups First Person

Untethered: In Pittsburgh Everyone Knows Everyone and I’m Sure I Do Too

But face-blindess is a bitch.

Nico August 10, 2023 25 Comments
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Dating

You Need Help: I’m Afraid of Feeling Like Less of a Trans Man for Not Dating Men

Cool people who will appreciate you as a whole person exist, and I believe you can find them.

Nico August 8, 2023 18 Comments
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Dating

You Need Help: When Is the Right Time To Talk About Being Exclusive in a Relationship?

And do I have to have the conversation in person when we’re long distance?

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya August 1, 2023 2 Comments
Sex

Service Tops, Bratty Bottoms and Pillow Princesses: Other Words You Use to Describe How You Have Sex

We’ve been talking about tops, bottoms and switches for a few weeks and today we’re doing a little glossary of the other words you use to describe how you have sex!

Riese July 31, 2023 53 Comments
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Relationships

18 Really F*cking Cute and Gay True Stories About How You Met Your Partner

“In 2021, our parents ran into each other at Lowe’s and were basically like “Hey, my kid’s gay and mentally ill too!”

Riese July 31, 2023 12 Comments
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Sex

13 Reasons Women In Lesbian Relationships Aren’t Having (More) Sex

“Lesbian bed death” does happen, and many lesbians feel they’re not having enough sex. But it doesn’t happen for the reasons you think it does, and it’s not necessarily the problem you think it is.

Riese July 28, 2023 77 Comments
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Friendship

You Need Help: I Miss the Social Intimacy of Church

How can I build meaningful and lasting friendships?

Em Win July 25, 2023 3 Comments
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Breakups

Untethered: After a Breakup, Spinning Out of Control (Literally)

For the first few days of the breakup, I was in shock. I hadn’t expected it, had watched myself from outside myself. Still, it was done.

Nico July 13, 2023 17 Comments
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Dating

Eight Things I’ve Learned While Dating at 28

I could not have taken on the past year of dating without my best friends.

Em Win July 12, 2023 9 Comments
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Breakups

You Need Help: Should I Go No Contact With My Ex?

Exes don’t HAVE to be friends but also don’t HAVE to be enemies.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya July 11, 2023 5 Comments
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Sex

5 Lube Dispensers for Your Next Queer Hookup — Because Presentation Is Everything

If you want to look extra put-together, it’s time to upgrade your lube dispenser.

Ro White July 10, 2023 3 Comments
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Dating

You Need Help: Am I Being Unreasonable for Feeling Undesired by My Girlfriend?

I think the topic of Asian desire doesn’t get nuanced attention often enough.

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