Thank You, Ex: For the Baseball Jersey I Wore Constantly as a Baby Gay
Not everyone was surprised when I came out as a lesbian, but a few people were. Most notably: my boyfriend at the time.
Blush and Bashful: Why Am I So Stressed About a Wedding Hashtag?
I learned some weird things about wedding hashtags while fixating on this.
You Need Help: On Dating During a Health Scare
I am sending you and your person all my love and wishes for competent and compassionate medical care, swift healing, and fruitful conversations in the future about your growing relationship.
How Black Queer and Trans Folks Can Get Involved in the Kink Community
In the hands of Black queer and trans folks, kink can be deeply healing and transformative.
Thank You, Ex: For the Practice of Making Monthly Playlists
Step One: You must unfollow her on Spotify to ensure that you cannot see what she’s listening to anymore.
The Eroscillator Top Deluxe Vibrator Is the MILF of the Sex Toy World
I expected to be blown away by the Eroscillator Top Deluxe Vibrator — and I was.
Dykes on Dates: Parents Weekend
We went on a bunch of double dates with my parents, and it made me realize our relationships are more similar than I thought.
You Need Help: Can I Open My Relationship and Have Casual Sex Without Relying On The Apps?
Sure, maybe some nights you’ll encounter a confident queer who makes a beeline for you and starts chatting, but you know how you can guarantee a confident queer is in the room chatting to new people? Be The Confident Queer You Want To See At The Bar!
How Polyamory Pushed Me to Prioritize My Pelvic Health
Communicating openly about sex and pelvic health with my partners helps me advocate for myself in medical settings.
Thank You, Ex: For Teaching Me To Save for Retirement
Bless my ex, and her bestie, because they both patiently explained why actually, there’s nothing punk rock about not taking care of your future self if you have the means to.
I Railed My Partner With a Neoprene Thigh Harness While Tribbing Fast Enough to Start a Fire
The main reason I’ve been wanting to try the Neoprene Thigh Harness is so that I can penetrate my partner while tribbing against her thigh.
Blush and Bashful: How to Elope
When you elope it’s fantastically freeing to only focus on yourselves.
Thank You, Ex: For (1) Set of Ghost Hands
I don’t like to think about the endings, which is probably why I’m always haunted, always clinging to things that return even when I should pretend I do not see them.
How to Finger Your Partner When You Have Chronic Pain in Your Hands
A few minor adjustments can make fingering easier, even when chronic pain is cramping your style.
Dykes on Dates: Sometimes Date Night Is Just Chips, Dips, and a Drink Tasting
This was truly the least amount of food prep I’ve ever done for an at-home date night.
You Need Help: How Can I Deal With My Own Sexual Shame?
I want you to know that your shame is not uncommon and you’re not alone in feeling it. While it does take a long time to undo, you’re on the right track by acknowledging it verbally.
Thank You, Ex: For the Ring Dish That Reminds Me I’m Hot
I was never much of a ring-wearer until I came out.
Blush and Bashful: Let’s Talk About Wedding Registries
Your loved ones want to get you the things you want, and they can only do that if you tell them what that is!
You Need Help: My Partner and I Disagree About Our COVID Risk Reduction Practices
Sometimes, after dealing with an active crisis as a team, it’s the period afterward that can start to pull us apart. There’s more time and space for your individual needs and feelings; it’s not surprising that this is when the resentment can really start to build!
Dykes on Dates: Tips for Topping (Homemade Pizza)
You don’t have to be a seasoned home chef to make pizza date night a reality! I’ve got tips for all skill levels and price points.