You Need Help: How Do I Know if I’m Really Attracted to My Partner?
Humans can sometimes be unreliable narrators of our own lives.
Lesbian Weddings on TV: From Carol and Susan to Bette and Tina
The history of lesbian weddings on TV: parents refusing to attend, wild ’90s hats, untimely deaths, a weed brownie rave on the Eiffel Tower, an impromptu prison wedding, the union of two solo gems and so much more.
Blush and Bashful: I’m Writing a Lesbian Wedding Column and You’re Invited
Welcome to Blush & Bashful, a new biweekly column about planning a queer wedding.
How I’m Navigating Play Parties as a Disabled, Immunocompromised Kinkster
I knew they taught about safety in BDSM culture, and I assumed that this ethic would carry through in their COVID safety. I was wrong.
You Need Help: You Fat-Shamed Your Beautiful Girlfriend
If your girlfriend wrote into this column with this story, I would tell her she should break up with you.
How to Shop for Accessible Sex Toys When You Live With Chronic Pain
Living with chronic pain has taught me how to help myself and others achieve pleasure using accessible sex toys.
You Need Help: How Do I Get Back Into Dating at Age 54?
As a culture, we spend a lot of time talking about all of the ways that dating can suck; it becomes easy to forget how fun it can actually be!
The Gay B C’s of Sex: S Is for Stone
Slick back your hair and cuff those sleeves — we’re heading back to the 1940s and ’50s.
You Need Help: I Feel Like I’m My Girlfriend’s Second Choice
I want you to start 2023 feeling like your own number-one pick. That way, when the right person comes along, you’ll be ready and confident to be her number-one pick, too.
Some Things I Didn’t Expect When Planning My Lesbian Wedding
2. I’m in not infrequent contact with a woman named Daphne who is renting me a Fancy Portable Toilet Trailer with air conditioning.
You Need Help: My Best Friend Broke Up With Me
How can I grieve this and move on? I assumed it would just happen with time but a lot of time has passed and I’m still stuck.
Looking Back at the Queer Episodes of “Say Yes to the Dress”
My understanding of my queerness has evolved significantly since the first lesbian brides appeared on Say Yes to the Dress.
The Le Wand XO Is Chic, Elegant, and Capable of Blasting Your Bits Into Bits
I love that this toy feels like a sleek, adult upgrade of my first vibrator.
You Need Help: After a Bad Date I’m Worried I’m Unlovable
We live in a world that doesn’t value people of color or women over thirty, so I understand why you feel like this. But you are lovable.
I’m a Queer Bride on a Budget — And I Went to a Bridal Expo
Have you ever heard of a Bridal Expo? I sure hadn’t! And did you know there are wedding-themed porta potties?!
You Need Help: I’m In Love With My Straight Best Friend
There will come a time when you see someone at the grocery store or in class and think “oh wow, they’re cute!” And then you’ll know: the hard work has paid off.
How I’m Rewriting the “Trophy Wife” Script As a Queer Trans Woman
I want to be treasured for my many wonderful qualities beneath the surface and held proudly by the person who chooses to date me.
The Gay B C’s of Sex: G Is for Gold Star Lesbian
Put on your lesbian hard hats — we’re about to enter dangerous territory.
You Need Help: I Want to Work on Myself, How Do I Do That?
I have behaviors I notice that spill into my relationship that stem from personal issues. I want to be a better person to myself, and my partner. I want to feel like my cup is full as I am, and then be able to use that to help fill our cup.
The Iroha Plus Tori Looks Less Like A Sex Toy and More Like a Woodland Grub (But It Still Got Me Off)
Because of the Iroha Plus Tori’s ambiguous shape, I wasn’t immediately clear on how to use it.