You Need Help: What To Do With This Meaningless, Single Life?
I want to try to hold space here for both: for your (and my, really) pain and for the possibility that you may not feel this way forever.
You Need Help: My Trauma is Activated When My Partner Masturbates to Porn
Your feelings are deeply understandable, even though your partner isn’t doing anything wrong. If you haven’t already, it’s time to seek trauma therapy.
“Her Ultimate Pleasure” Turned Me Into a Bratty Bottom
When I eventually had one of the best orgasms of my life, I felt like something inside me had been rearranged.
My Chronic Yeast Infections Wouldn’t Go Away — Until I Left My Toxic Relationship
I wish my doctor had mentioned the relationship between stress and chronic yeast infections.
What If, Lube?
Lube. Just lube. Lube for regular sex, with or without toys. Lube anytime, for anything. It’s lube!
The 68 Absolutely Gayest Ways You Met Your Gay Partner(s), According to the 2022 Reader Survey
“We met in 1995. I was in grad school and had a job at the campus women’s center. I helped her hang an art show. We later hung out at a feminist science fiction convention. We’ve been together ever since.”
You Need Help: I’m a 16 Year-old Lesbian Asking ‘What Is Love?’
“How do I get myself to understand what love can really be, after the initial sparks fade?”
How Chloe Caldwell’s “Women” Shaped My Queer Heartbreak
I couldn’t acknowledge that this was unsustainable, that my life wasn’t the novella I had convinced myself it was.
The Gay B C’s of Sex: D Is for Daddy
The queer community played a special role in shaping how the word is used today. Are you ready to learn more? Say, “Yes, Daddy.”
You Need Help: How To Date While Dealing With Mental Illness
Dating has often felt like a game I don’t know how to play. “An elaborate puzzle,” as you say. One where the pieces are sharp as knives that cut to the core of my deepest insecurities.
Queer Sex Horror Stories: The Tale of Two Tongues
Then I feel something wet…but not in a place where I’m supposed to feel something wet. Also, it’s kind of rough.
Also.Also.Also: Mary Lambert’s Wedding Is Giving Gay Autumn Splendor
She keeps me warm. And also: Fiona Apple is a court watcher in Maryland in her spare time (a model citizen, one might say), nine gay ghost stories, and Frog & Toad are cozy queer icons.
Queer Sex Horror Stories: The Tale of the Bloody Foursome
I was having my first group sex experience AND my first queer experience in one night?!
An Obituary for My Departed Vibrators
In remembrance of the buzzy little friends who saw me at my best and my worst.
Queer Sex Horror Stories: The Tale of the Dirty Dildo
We both froze as we heard what can only be described as…a queef of confusion.
How Growing Out My Body Hair and T4T Sex Helped Me Find Self-Acceptance
It’s not that I was no longer attracted to cisgender people — I was hoping to find parts of myself reflected in the people I dated.
Queer Sex Horror Stories: The Tale of the Lost Butt Plug
I had them lean over my bed, and that’s when I saw it: My submissive’s hungry hole had swallowed the butt plug.
The Gay B C’s of Sex: T Is for Tribbing
Rubbing your bits against another hot bod is both physically and visually pleasurable, no matter what you call it.
You Need Help: I’ve Never Dated — How Do I Move Beyond Flirting?
As scary as this sounds, in order to date, you’re probably going to have to actually ask people out.
The Echo of My Friend’s Casual Biphobia Destroyed Our Relationship
“Remember your bi phase?” my best friend asked when we were in our 20s. I rolled my eyes.
“Yeah. It was never a phase.”