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Against a yellow background, a woman with brown skin and shoulder-length, wavy brown hair puts her hands over her face. She is wearing a sleeveless black shirt and a black watch.
Dating

How Ghosting Harms Queer Communities, According to a Philosopher

When I’m ghosted and when others like me are ghosted, it takes on an extra sting.

Em Hernandez February 17, 2022 26 Comments
In the bottom right corner, there is a black line drawing of two women with 1950s hair styles whispering to reach other against a teal background. In the upper left corner, there is a speech bubble. Inside the speech bubble, there is an image of a lavender sex toy with a white point on the end.
Sex Toys

Anonymous Sex Toy Review: The Lovense Hyphy

“The toy comes in a hard plastic case with a clear lid for viewing that reminds me of the cryogenic sleeping pods in Alien.”

Guest February 17, 2022 1 Comment
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Love + Sex

You Need Help: What Is Love?

The questions we get more frequently for this column than any other are about love, so we tried to answer: what is love?

the team February 15, 2022 14 Comments
Two women smile with their arms around each other as they walk outside.
Dating

Relationship “Green Flags” To Look For When Dating

Just like “red flags” can tell you a person might be toxic, overly controlling, or unavailable emotionally, looking for “green flags” can tell you if your partner is, generally, a pretty solid person worth continuing to invest in!

Abbie Jones February 14, 2022 10 Comments
Dating

You Need Help: What Does “Going Slow” in a Lesbian Relationship Look Like?

I think what we’re trying to do here is enabling you to get comfortable judging the quality of your relationship not for your mutual willingness to prioritize emotional whims and romantic rapture over common sense but by the actual connection you feel to a person.

Riese February 8, 2022 18 Comments
A black and white image of a woman with pale skin and chin-length brown hair driving while screaming is surrounded by a black border with yellow dots and scalloped edges.
Dating

You Have Road Rage? That’s a Red Flag!

I never felt unsafe with her in the driver’s seat, even when she screamed at other cars. I didn’t feel scared. I felt drained.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya February 8, 2022 19 Comments
In a cropped image of a pelvis, a person with pale skin and multi-colored fingernails rests their hand on their hip. They're wearing white underwear with ruffles along the edges.
Sex

Muffing 101

For trans women who experience genital dysphoria, being penetrated in the front can be really meaningful.

Tobi Hill-Meyer February 7, 2022 20 Comments
A person sits on the outside of a friend group looking lonely.
Friendship

You Need Help: Your Girlfriend Has No Friends

Ultimately, you should remember that it’s up to your girlfriend to do the work of making friends, not you. I would encourage you to find a way to cheer her on from the sidelines in a way that feels good for both of you.

Em Win February 1, 2022 2 Comments
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Lesbian Dating Apps

Ranking and Roasting Hinge’s New Gay Prompts

As all Hinge prompts do, these run the gamut of “vaguely cringe-inducing” to “absolutely mortifying,” and that’s before we even begin to consider whether they are, at their root, kind of pandering?

Analyssa January 31, 2022 6 Comments
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Lesbian Weddings

You Need Help: Your Future In-Laws Won’t Come to Your Wedding

It’s obvious you love your fiancé very much, and want to protect them from any agony the world wants to hurl at them. Unfortunately, you mostly can’t. But here’s what you can do instead.

Heather Hogan January 25, 2022 6 Comments
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Dating

You’re a Bad Tipper? That’s a Red Flag!

If someone has to serve you while you flirt relentlessly or converse stiffly, then they should be paid extra for that labor.

Alyse Burnside January 13, 2022 54 Comments
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Dating Love + Sex

You Need Help: Can I Flirt With My Crushes Without Being Seen as Predatory?

I think this trope has held so many lesbians back from making moves and finding love with someone they’re interested in. You’re not gonna come off as predatory just by flirting with someone, trust me.

danijanae January 11, 2022 10 Comments
Against a lavender background, there is a drawn image of two people whispering to each other in the bottom right corner. A speech bubble is in the upper left corner. Inside the speech bubble, there is an image of the Snail Vibe, a purple vibrator with a short swirling end and a long swirling end.
Sex Toys

Anonymous Sex Toy Review: The Snail Vibe

The best part of using this toy was when I eventually tossed it on the floor and let myself orgasm all over my hot date’s fist instead.

Guest January 10, 2022 8 Comments
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Dating

Be the Queer Rom-Com Lead You Want To See in the World

Indulge in coziness, quirk it up, and create a soundtrack for your life. Here are some fool-proof tips for feeling like the star of your own personal rom-com.

Analyssa January 5, 2022 10 Comments
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Sex

Sex Tips for When You’re Stranded in the Canadian Wilderness Post-Plane Crash With No Rescue Team in Sight

Do you really want to be that person who survived a plane crash and then died from putting a literal stick up their ass? No, you don’t.

Ro White January 4, 2022 10 Comments
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Friendship

You Need Help: How Do I Get My Friend Out of Her Toxic Relationship?

It can be really hard to watch a friend in a relationship that doesn’t seem good for them. At the same time, this situation isn’t entirely yours to fix or even diagnose for that matter.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya January 4, 2022 7 Comments
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Coming Out Dating

You Need Help: Will I Ever Grow Out Of The Messy Questioning Phase?

Accept the messy questioning phase. It’s the whole point of being alive.

Vanessa December 28, 2021 6 Comments
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Sex

Positions for Fat Sex in All of Its Holiness

In short, if you know, you know: fat sex is church. Here are some of the positions that have taken me there when I knew I needed to be lifted in prayer.

Cat L. December 27, 2021 11 Comments
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NSFW Sunday

NSFW Sunday Is a Love Letter to Queer Sex

Today is the last-ever NSFW Sunday – and a love letter to building a life around queer sex.

Ryan Yates December 26, 2021 46 Comments
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Dating Podcasts

“Wait, Is This a Date?” Podcast Special Episode: 2021 Mailbag

Happy holidays! And by “happy” I mean, things sure feel really bad right now?? But luckily our gift to you is a virtual one AKA our long-awaited mailbag episode!

Drew Burnett Gregory December 22, 2021 3 Comments
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