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Love + Sex

Intimate Geographies: Two Femmes Kissing on a Futon

This was my first time with a girl and my first time with a fellow femme and it was hot and gentle and earnest and soft, soft, soft.

KaeLyn May 23, 2022 8 Comments
In the bottom right corner of the image, there is a black line drawing of two women with 1950s hairstyles whispering to each other against a blue background. In the upper left corner, there is a speech bubble. Inside the speech bubble, there is an image of the Lovers Joy Stick Thruster, a purple thrusting vibrator with a bulbous insertable portion and a flat, vulva-shaped external portion.
Sex Toys

I Got Absolutely Jackhammered by the Lovers Joy Stick Thruster and It Was Fine, I Guess?

While the Lovers Joy Stick Thruster fulfilled its promise of reaching “sweet spots,” it was ultimately too intense.

Guest May 23, 2022
An East Asian woman with shoulder-length black hair and brown hairs stares out a window with her arms wrapped around her chest. Trees are visible through the window.
Dating

You Need Help: I’m Disabled — Will I Ever Find Love?

Disabled and chronically ill people are powerful and sexy and worthy of love, and that means you’re all of those things, too. 

Ro White May 17, 2022 18 Comments
two women sit on a couch talking to each other, looking serious and maybe a little sad
Breakups

You Need Help: I’m Still in Love With My Ex and Can’t Stop Asking Our Friends About Her

If you want to get over her and not miss her, you have to get out of her orbit for a while.

danijanae May 10, 2022 5 Comments
A Black woman with a reddish-brown afro wears gold hoop earrings and an orange T-shirt. She stands in front of an orange background and holds a black butt plug in one hand and a black rabbit vibrator in the other.
Sex

10 Ways to Celebrate Masturbation May

Give yourself a hand — it’s International Masturbation Month!

Ro White May 3, 2022 4 Comments
A dewy rose that looks like a vagina and the text: The Principles of Pleasure
Sex TV Reviews

Netflix’s “The Principles of Pleasure” Invites Us Out of Shame and Into the Light

Pleasure can be sexual, but it also doesn’t have to be. I think I could have a healthier relationship with sex and my body by defining what pleasure means for me, without the influence of sex and attraction.

Em Win May 2, 2022 7 Comments
In the bottom right corner of the image, there is a black line drawing of two women with 1950s hairstyles whispering to each other against a pink background. In the upper left corner, there is a speech bubble. Inside the speech bubble, there is an image of black fabric restraints attached to long, black straps.
Sex Toys

Anonymous Sex Toy Review: Sportsheets Under the Bed Restraint System

No matter how much she begged, pleaded and yanked on the straps, she was securely held in place and entirely at my mercy.

Guest April 26, 2022
A Black woman with curly hair wearing a pink T-shirt and jeans sits cross-legged on a white bed with her head in her hands. Windows covered in gauzy white curtains are visible in the background.
Breakups

Did My Partner Leave Me Because of My Bipolar Disorder?

My bipolar disorder may have caused my breakup, but I can’t and don’t want to separate my disability from who I am.

anneaxinn April 19, 2022 13 Comments
Against a white background, a white woman with shoulder-length brown hair leans over a white table and presses her face into a pink cake.
Sex

It’s Cake and Cunnilingus Day — Let’s Celebrate Accordingly!

I paired eight types of cakes with eight styles of cunnilingus to inspire your revelry.

Ro White April 14, 2022 17 Comments
A transmasculine gender-nonconforming person with short blond and bright red hair and a transfeminine non-binary person with long brown wavy hair, waking up together in bed. The person with brown hair is looking into the distance as though thinking about something.
Relationships

You Need Help: Am I Still Into Non-Monogamy or Not Really?

How do I navigate not knowing for sure whether monogamy or non-monogamy is for me? And how do I communicate that to my partner and my sexy friends?

KaeLyn April 12, 2022 21 Comments
The image shows the chest and arms of a Black woman wearing a white T-shirt with a graphic of an open cigar box on one side of the chest, a gray watch on one wrist and a simple silver bracelet on the other wrist. She is leaning against another woman, who was wearing a black shirt and jeans. Only one of her hands and her upper legs are visible.
Dating

Your Assumptions About Black, Queer Masculinity Are Erasing My Asexual Identity

As a black, masc, asexual person, I am continually sought out for my assumed hypersexuality. When people don’t get that from me, they automatically assume a flaw, forgetting there are other other forms of intimacy within reach.

Timinepre Cole April 7, 2022 16 Comments
In the bottom right corner of the image, there is a black line drawing of two women with 1950s hair styles whispering to each other against a lavender background. In the upper left corner, there is a speech bubble. Inside the speech bubble, there is an image of the Fun Factory Share Lite, a teal, double-ended dildo with a bulbous end and a long shaft.
Sex Toys

Anonymous Sex Toy Review: The Share Lite

If you’re looking for a double-ended dildo, the Share Lite is an excellent option, but it absolutely does not stay in place without a harness.

Guest April 4, 2022 3 Comments
Closeup portrait of a Black woman laying in bed alone, feeling lonely, going through a breakup
Breakups

You Need Help: Breaking Up Is Hard To Do

I know I must sound like a broken record: “break up…break up…break up!” But I truly think that you both deserve the kind of relationship where your needs are being fulfilled.

danijanae March 29, 2022 2 Comments
a woman sits in the foreground looking miserable and left out, while her girlfriend sits with two friends in the background, looking at her with dismay
Relationships

You Need Help: My Girlfriend Has No Queer Friends, Is That a Problem?

This is very clearly your problem, not your girlfriend’s problem, and resolving it will be your work, not hers.

Abbie Jones March 22, 2022 25 Comments
A white woman with brown hair pulled back into a bun sits on a bed with a white comforter. She is wearing a white T-shirt and plaid shorts. She is leaning forward and placing her hands over her groin.
Sex

How I Navigate Sex as a Bisexual Woman With Vaginismus

You don’t have to try to “fix” your vaginismus if you don’t want to. I’m not hyped about doing it, personally.

Ashley Broadwater March 10, 2022 19 Comments
Single woman in a swing on the beach at sunset reaches out to the empty swing beside her, seems sad
Dating

You Need Help: I Hate Not Having a Girlfriend

Why do you want a girlfriend? Why do you dislike being single? I’m serious! I want you to ask yourself these questions and come up with as many answers as possible.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya March 8, 2022 13 Comments
A black and white image shows two women arguing in a kitchen. The woman on the left has pale skin and long, red hair. She is wearing a tank top and gesturing in front of there face. The woman on the right is a Black woman with dark brown skin and long, blonde braids. She is wearing a white tank top and a cardigan, and one of her hands is against her forehead. The image is surrounded by a black, scalloped border with yellow dots.
Dating

You’re a Combative Communicator? That’s a Red Flag!

I much prefer relationships that meet confusion with curiosity and center attempts for clarity and mutual understanding.

Chinelo Anyadiegwu March 2, 2022 16 Comments
Da Brat & Jesseca “Judy” Dupart kiss at their wedding. There is a minister in a black pantsuit and pink coat behind them, and an arch of purple flowers. Wedding guess look on and smile, all of them wearing shades of pink and purple. MICHAEL SEABROOK/WE TV
Celebrities (Vapid Fluff) Lesbian Weddings

Da Brat’s Wedding Photos Are a Gay Fairytale Designed to Melt the February Ice Around Your Heart

In this post is every photo from Da Brat’s wedding that I could find because Black love is beautiful and we deserve. That is all.

Carmen Phillips February 24, 2022 3 Comments
A black and white image shows a Black woman in a collared shirt with curly, shoulder-length hair whispering to woman with long, dark hair who has her hand over her mouth in surprise and is also wearing a collared shirt. The image is surrounded by a yellow, scalloped border with black dots.
Dating

You Bad-Mouth Every Single One of Your Exes? That’s a Red Flag!

If your partner always portrays themself as the wronged party in the trials and tribulations of past relationships — red flag.

Taneasha February 24, 2022 8 Comments
Against a yellow background, a woman with brown skin and shoulder-length, wavy brown hair puts her hands over her face. She is wearing a sleeveless black shirt and a black watch.
Dating

How Ghosting Harms Queer Communities, According to a Philosopher

When I’m ghosted and when others like me are ghosted, it takes on an extra sting.

Em Hernandez February 17, 2022 26 Comments
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