8 Clit-Stimulating Sex Toys That Don’t Actually Look Like Sex Toys
Do you need a sex toy that looks like a starfish, a seashell or a duck? Browse this list and get inspired.
“Wait, Is This a Date?” Podcast Episode 206: Celebrity Crushes
Celebrity crushes mean more to queer people than they do to straight people. They can be our first expressions of queer desire or our first expressions of gender envy. They can be a safe place to try out urges that aren’t ready for the real world.
You Need Help: I Could Love Them, But They’re Leaving
Sometimes, someone comes along who starts to remind us what we want, what we deserve, just how sweet love can be, without being the person who has space to give those things to us long-term.
“Wait, Is This a Date?” Podcast Episode 205: Public Relationships
This week we’ve brought on someone in a gaymous power couple: Grace Lavery! But being in a public relationship isn’t just the joys of ambitious4ambitious. There’s also the matter of boundaries and privacy.
“Wait, Is This a Date?” Podcast Episode 204: Partner’s Pets
Animals, like people, have their own personalities and should be taken on a case-by-case basis. (AKA wherein Drew bravely says that snakes are maybe a bit sexy thanks to a certain pop star.)
Vabbing, the New Trend Where You Use Your Own Vaginal Fluids as Perfume
According to some vabbers, dabbing a little vagina juice behind your ears will make you more sexually attractive to others
You Need Help: Can I Go Through this Heartbreak Again?
In order to work through problems in a relationship, both parties must be present, willing, and able to do the work required. It’s a little like you’re sitting side by side in a rowboat, each holding one oar. When one person does all the rowing, you’re only going to go in circles.
If My Clit Were Lost in the Woods, the Aer Would Still Find It
I’ve tried a lot of suction sex toys — here’s how the Aer compares.
“Wait, Is This a Date?” Podcast Episode 203: Dating Men
Whether you’re a lesbian who dated men as a teen or a queer person who dates lots of genders, our community is far too mixed and gender is far too complicated to leave men — cis and trans — out of our discussions.
Lorals Latex Underwear Gave Me Minimal Pleasure and Maximal Wedgies
And as the latex was rolling in on itself, it took any hair on my body with it, so I got the bikini wax I never asked for.
“Wait, Is This a Date?” Podcast Episode 202: Boundaries
When it comes to boundaries, our strengths are our weaknesses and our weaknesses are our strengths. (Also let us talk about Raven Symoné’s chaotic gay TikTok, shall we?)
I’m a Bisexual Woman With Genital Herpes — Here’s What’s in My Sex Bag
After my diagnosis, I thought my sex life was over. I was wrong.
“Wait, Is This a Date?” Podcast Episode 201: Mommi Culture
Honey, we’re home!!!! “Wait, Is This a Date?” is back and we’re talking all things mommi culture! And all things dating as an actual mom!
You Need Help: Will I Be A Virgin Forever?
There are a lot of harmful messages in our society about lack of experience, specifically about virginity. But you have so many things to offer, things which are far more vital to a good experience than whether you’ve had partnered sex before.
We Hosted a Virtual Workshop on COVID-19 and Queer Sexual Health!
Last week, we partnered with Rainbow Health to host a virtual workshop on COVID-19 and queer sexual health. Here’s a complete transcript of what went down!
You Need Help: My Crush Is Dating Someone Else and I Feel Very Jealous
You don’t always get the girl, and that’s okay.
How to Make a Thirst Trap Gif
Want to really impress your crush? Send them a thirst trap gif. Here’s how to make one.
Needle Play Brings Me Back into My Body Over and Over Again
Editor’s Note: This essay includes descriptions of piercings with hypodermic needles and blood in a BDSM context and brief references to self-harm. Needles are an edge. They encompass many spheres and much stigma, reminding us that we’re flesh sacks filled with fluid a mere pinprick can pierce. IV drug users and those who are tattooed […]
You Need Help: Is ‘Lesbian Bed Death’ Really So Bad?
It’s easy to get the impression that everybody should be wanting to have lots of sex, all the time. But sex is not inherently superior to any other way you and your partner might spend time together. You and your partner are the only ones who get to decide how sex fits in to your life together, and which activities and intimacies are most meaningful to you both.
We Sat On Cakes to Find Our Joy
After months of holding ourselves back in order to keep ourselves and others safe from COVID, we were chasing abundance.