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Vanessa

Community Editor

Joined A-Team: July 2012

Articles written: 404

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About Vanessa

Vanessa is a writer, a teacher, and the community editor at Autostraddle. Very hot, very fun, very weird. Find her on twitter and instagram.

Vanessa's Featured Posts on Autostraddle

The Land Dykes Of Southern Oregon Saved My Life
Your Homework For 2019 Is To Assume Everyone Thinks You’re Hot, I’m Serious
The Lesbian Herstory Archives Guard Our Past, Give Us Hope for Our Future
Everything Is Queer Community: Instagram, the Void, and #SoftEggContent
10 Floors I've Lied On, Ranked
Why I Got Off the Pacific Crest Trail After 454 Miles Instead of Walking All the Way to Canada
I Don't Know How To Say Goodbye So I Wrote You This Instead
What I Learned From Buffy About All The Versions Of My Queer Girl Self
The Lesbian Herstory Archives: A Constant Affirmation That You Exist

All Posts on Autostraddle

two white lesbian brides — one with blueish dyed hair and one with red hair — embrace during a gay wedding ceremony

Lesbian Weddings

Blush and Bashful: How To Plan a Lesbian Wedding Ceremony

2 years ago 13 Comments

a coin jar labeled: WEDDING

Lesbian Weddings

Blush and Bashful: How To Save Money on Your Lesbian Wedding

2 years ago 12 Comments

#WEDDING written into the sand on a beach

Lesbian Weddings

Blush and Bashful: Why Am I So Stressed About a Wedding Hashtag?

2 years ago 10 Comments

Puzzles

Word Search: The Group Chat

2 years ago 2 Comments

young Black person sitting at an outdoor bar holding a beverage and looking flirtatious

Dating

You Need Help: Can I Open My Relationship and Have Casual Sex Without Relying On The Apps?

2 years ago 6 Comments

a postcard-like image of two jars of coins reading SAVINGS and INVESTMENT with a stamp of a pink flower and the text THANK YOU, EX!

Breakups
Money + Work

Thank You, Ex: For Teaching Me To Save for Retirement

2 years ago 25 Comments

two corsaged sets of hands hold each other in close up during a lesbian wedding.

Lesbian Weddings

Blush and Bashful: Let’s Talk About Wedding Registries

2 years ago 25 Comments

A collage of seven heart shaped images featuring seven different relationships on a pale pink background. The hearts feature photos of the seven relationships interviewed for this column: Kristen and Kayla, Beth and Sa’iyda, Yasmeen and Clio and their polycule, Adrienne, and Jenny, Evette and Teré, Amanda-Faye and Jo, and Sadie and Nico.

Lesbian Weddings

Blush and Bashful: What It’s Like To Be Queer and Engaged

2 years ago 13 Comments

A fat bride with brown hair curled at the edges around her shoulders is in a white gown and looking at herself in the mirror of a dressing room. She is smiling and happy.

Lesbian Weddings

Blush and Bashful: How One Fat Femme Bought Her Dream Wedding Dress

2 years ago 32 Comments

two hands, both belonging to white women, show off two gorgeous and unique engagement rings

Lesbian Weddings

Blush and Bashful: You’re a Lesbian and You Want To Buy an Engagement Ring

2 years ago 31 Comments

a screenshot from The Drew Barrymore Instagram, featuring Drew and Natasha Lyonne embracing during a clip where they announced they were Aubrey Plaza's mommy and daddy. On the right you can see the comment section where Aubrey herself has commented "mama" and "dada."

Celebrities (Vapid Fluff)

Drew Barrymore and Natasha Lyonne Say They’re Aubrey Plaza’s Mommi and Daddy, I Personally Won’t Recover

2 years ago 7 Comments

Puzzles

Word Search: Dream Afternoon

2 years ago 2 Comments

Vanessa's wedding engagement, featuring a close-up of two hands with rings on a piece of wood

Lesbian Weddings

Blush and Bashful: I’m Writing a Lesbian Wedding Column and You’re Invited

2 years ago 17 Comments

Puzzles

Word Search: Into Every Generation

2 years ago 15 Comments

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Relationships

You Need Help: I Feel Like I’m My Girlfriend’s Second Choice

2 years ago 14 Comments

a sofa made from straw

Lesbian Weddings

Some Things I Didn’t Expect When Planning My Lesbian Wedding

2 years ago 21 Comments

Puzzles

Word Search: The Situationship

2 years ago 4 Comments

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Identity

You Need Help: I Just Turned 65 and I’m Questioning My Sexuality

2 years ago 19 Comments

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Lesbian Weddings

I’m a Queer Bride on a Budget — And I Went to a Bridal Expo

2 years ago 35 Comments

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First Person
Health

Goodbye to My Gallbladder

2 years ago 41 Comments

Sponsored

City Queers Went Outdoors With REI And Naturally — It Was a Blast

2 years ago 13 Comments

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Food Lists
Health

How to Meal Plan Without Hating Your Life and Your Self

2 years ago 26 Comments

Sponsored

Autostraddle Goes Outside, in Chicago and Portland!

3 years ago 20 Comments

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AF+
Love + Sex

How to Find Local Kink Community and Also How to Hire a Sex Worker

3 years ago 6 Comments

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Culture

Fall in Love With Dyke Queen Issue 3: Recipes from Queerantine!

3 years ago 1 Comment

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Health

You Need Help: I Keep Getting Yeast Infections When I Receive Oral Sex

3 years ago 11 Comments

Virology by Joe Osmundson

Book Features

Joe Osmundson on Expansive Science Writing and Living in an Impossible World

3 years ago 11 Comments

Photo 1: A person wears brown coveralls and a hat that says Beefcake while holding a drill. Photo 2: A person wearing a tank that says "handiqueers" on it holds a large tool. Photo 3: A person crouches in white lace up boots and a mask, spraying something at a construction site.

Community

17 Handyqueers To Follow on Instagram

3 years ago 9 Comments

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Book Features

Michelle Tea on Queer Pregnancy and Writing a Memoir in Present Tense

3 years ago 4 Comments

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First Person

My Girlfriend Installed My Bidet While I Cheered Her On: A Love Story

3 years ago 13 Comments

four book covers in a simple collage: blood fresh, there are trans people here, funeral for flaca, and the subtweet

Book Lists

30 Books That Are Still Gay Even Though Pride Month Is Over

3 years ago 7 Comments

Vanessa and PB pose in front of a pool in bathing suits, wearing sunglasses. Vanessa's sunglasses are red and heart-shaped. PB's are clear with greenish lenses. PB is white and has blonde hair that is long on top and under a hat with a swoop of bangs visible and with shaved sides. Vanessa is also white with long brown hair she is wearing up.

AF+

Things I’ve Never Asked My Girlfriend About Wildflowers, Baby Names and Time Travel

3 years ago 12 Comments

A fat femme in a sheer piece with blonde hair stands smiling with deep colored circles in the background. Queerness through Style

Style

Fat Femmes On How They Show Their Queerness Through Fashion

3 years ago 18 Comments

Two fat femmes in All red dresses, surrounded by florals and deep pastels.

Style

Swimsuits, Lingerie & Jumpsuits – Fat Femmes Share Their Favorite Shops!

3 years ago 11 Comments

Two fat femmes of different sizes in the same lavender ruched front dress. Fat Femme Fashion.

Style

Fast Fashion Diaries — Fat Femmes On the Difficulties of Curating an Ethical Wardrobe

3 years ago 15 Comments

the cover of the sex and the single woman anthology, retro pink and orange text read sex and the single woman: 24 writers reimagine helen gurley brown's cult classic

Book Features

Seven Queer Writers Reflect on Their Essays Published in “Sex and the Single Woman”

3 years ago 7 Comments

Style

Puberty, Gym Class & Aeropostale — Fat Femmes On Their Childhood Style

3 years ago 19 Comments

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Community

It’s a Friday Open Thread, but on a Thursday!

3 years ago 29 Comments

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Community

The Gayest Things You Did at 13

3 years ago 26 Comments

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Crafts & DIY Projects

Crafts I Intended To Try This Winter but Now It’s Almost Spring so I Guess I’ll Put Them Off for Another Year

3 years ago 19 Comments

a collage with the words THE GAYEST THINGS WE DID AT 13: CALL FOR READER CONTRIBUTIONS at the center of nostalgic photos from high school

Community

Tell Us All About the Gayest Things You Did at 13!

3 years ago 8 Comments

Jill Gutowitz's book cover for her debut essay collection Girls Can Kiss Now is dark purple with pink font and many line drawing illustrations of cool lesbians in the background

LGBT Book Reviews

“Girls Can Kiss Now” and Other Realizations with Jill Gutowitz

3 years ago 3 Comments

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First Person

We Call It Time Travel

3 years ago 36 Comments

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Food and Drink

Things I’ve Eaten for Lunch at My Girlfriend’s House

3 years ago 20 Comments

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Coming Out
Dating

You Need Help: Will I Ever Grow Out Of The Messy Questioning Phase?

3 years ago 6 Comments

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Friendship

You Need Help: I Don’t Know How To Be a Casual Friend

3 years ago 7 Comments

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Dating

You Need Help: How Do I Pursue a Beautiful Woman Without Getting My Feelings Hurt?

3 years ago 1 Comment

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First Person
Holigays

Say Hello to RITUALS, an Autostraddle End of Year Miniseries

3 years ago 8 Comments

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AF+

S L I C K: How to Fuck Your Friends

3 years ago 4 Comments

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Dating

You Need Help: I’ve Never Had a Date and I’m So Lonely

3 years ago 17 Comments

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