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Vanessa

Community Editor

Joined A-Team: July 2012

Articles written: 404

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Vanessa is a writer, a teacher, and the community editor at Autostraddle. Very hot, very fun, very weird. Find her on twitter and instagram.

Vanessa's Featured Posts on Autostraddle

The Land Dykes Of Southern Oregon Saved My Life
Your Homework For 2019 Is To Assume Everyone Thinks You’re Hot, I’m Serious
The Lesbian Herstory Archives Guard Our Past, Give Us Hope for Our Future
Everything Is Queer Community: Instagram, the Void, and #SoftEggContent
10 Floors I've Lied On, Ranked
Why I Got Off the Pacific Crest Trail After 454 Miles Instead of Walking All the Way to Canada
I Don't Know How To Say Goodbye So I Wrote You This Instead
What I Learned From Buffy About All The Versions Of My Queer Girl Self
The Lesbian Herstory Archives: A Constant Affirmation That You Exist

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Relationships

You Need Help: I Don’t Want Kids But My Partner Might, Does This Mean We Can’t Get Married?

4 years ago 4 Comments

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First Person

Well, That’s Mortifying: That Time I Didn’t Know About Roger Clemens

4 years ago 9 Comments

Straddleverse

I Almost Didn’t Write It

4 years ago 6 Comments

three stacked journals: the top and bottom journals are black and the middle journal is grey with the words The Grief Journal on the spine

First Person

Journaling With My Grief

4 years ago 9 Comments

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First Person

Lying On The Floor With My Grief

4 years ago 6 Comments

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First Person

Walking With My Grief

4 years ago 10 Comments

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First Person

Eating Breakfast With My Grief

4 years ago 32 Comments

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Breakups

You Need Help: My Girlfriend is So Annoying, Should I Break Up With Her?

4 years ago 8 Comments

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First Person

I Spent the Summer Screaming in My Car, What About You?

4 years ago 20 Comments

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LGBT Pride

Queer IRL: Autostraddle’s 2021 Pride Gallery!

4 years ago 18 Comments

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Straddleverse

A Capricorn Without a Routine: A Day of Work

4 years ago 5 Comments

Politics + Activism

What Really Happened With The Gap Lesbian Avengers Pride T-Shirt

4 years ago 24 Comments

A collage of three Autostraddle staff members, Shelli, Abeni, and Dani

Community
LGBT Pride

Be Part of Autostraddle’s Pride 2021 Gallery!

4 years ago 13 Comments

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First Person

MISSED CONNECTION: I’m Sorry I Went to the Gym Instead of Letting You Fuck Me in My Twin Bed

4 years ago 13 Comments

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TV Feature

I Still Can’t Believe a Sixty Second Scene from “The OC” is My Gay Root

4 years ago 16 Comments

Lesbian Sex

You Deserve to Practice Elaborate Masturbation in Your Life; Here’s How

4 years ago 12 Comments

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LGBT Book Reviews

“The Ex-Girlfriend of My Ex-Girlfriend is My Girlfriend” Is a Goddamn Delight

4 years ago 3 Comments

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Friendship

Love Is Not a Lie, It Can’t Be

4 years ago 18 Comments

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AF+
Lesbian Sex

S L I C K: Hank & Melanie

4 years ago 5 Comments

A dispirited-looking woman holds her chin in her hand as she sits on a couch and looks off into the middle distance

Lesbian Sex

You Need Help: I’m Queer, Kinky, and Monogamous — Will I Be Alone Forever?

4 years ago 19 Comments

The cover of Everybody (Else) Is Perfect repeated three times

LGBT Book Reviews

“Everybody (Else) Is Perfect,” Gabrielle Korn’s Debut Essay Collection, Examines the Media World She Helped Create

4 years ago 4 Comments

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Dating

Yes, Virginia, Queer Women Can Casually Date: Here’s How It Works

4 years ago 17 Comments

Lesbian Sex

How to Write a Really Hot Sext in 5 Easy Steps

4 years ago 7 Comments

Dating
Relationships

Direct Communication Rules, Ghosting Sucks, Let’s All Say What We Mean

4 years ago 43 Comments

Lesbian Dating Apps

How to Choose Dating App Photos That’ll Have Babes Swiping Hell Yes

4 years ago 34 Comments

Dating

Assume Everyone Thinks You’re Hot, I’m Serious

4 years ago 103 Comments

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Holigays

Grounding Ourselves for 2021: A NYE Round Table & Open Thread

4 years ago 5 Comments

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Holigays

Tale As Old As Time: Here Is Your Christmakwanzakah Open Thread!

4 years ago 42 Comments

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Movie Features

Home Alone for the Holigays: Watch “Grease 2” with Vanessa

4 years ago 9 Comments

Christmas

Give Money to a Mutual Aid Fund Instead of Giving Gifts This Holigay Season

4 years ago 2 Comments

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Holigays

OPEN THREAD: What Are You Doing Today, Are You Okay?

4 years ago 54 Comments

Dating

How To Take A Perfect Butt Selfie

5 years ago 81 Comments

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Jewish Holidays

How to Celebrate the Jewish High Holidays During a Pandemic

5 years ago 8 Comments

Dating

You Need Help: Can I Tell My Poly Roommate Not to See Her Partners Because of Coronavirus?

5 years ago 37 Comments

Straddleverse

This is Your Friday Open Thread for July 10, 2020

5 years ago 67 Comments

Straddleverse

This is Your Friday Open Thread for July 3, 2020

5 years ago 33 Comments

Straddleverse

This is Your Friday Open Thread for June 26, 2020

5 years ago 39 Comments

Health

How to Wear a Mask Without Fogging Up Your Glasses

5 years ago 11 Comments

Straddleverse

This is Your Friday Open Thread for June 19, 2020

5 years ago 41 Comments

LGBT Pride

10 Ways You’ve Told Us You’re Celebrating Pride This Year

5 years ago 4 Comments

Straddleverse

Friday Open Thread: What’s Motivating You and Getting You Through?

5 years ago 31 Comments

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Community
Politics + Activism

Support Black Community With Your Money: A Living Index of Local Mutual Aid Efforts

5 years ago 1 Comment

Straddleverse

What Do We Do Now: An Open Thread on May 29, 2020

5 years ago 14 Comments

LGBT Pride

Tell Us Your Best Pride Stories So We Can Celebrate Together Virtually!

5 years ago 6 Comments

Straddleverse

Friday Open Threads Are Back, Come On In & Say Hi

5 years ago 225 Comments

Community

Autostraddle Is Hosting Our Second Virtual Community Care Week On Instagram & You’re Invited!

5 years ago 12 Comments

Dating

How We Feel About Dating During The Coronavirus Pandemic

5 years ago 19 Comments

Food and Drink

#Dykes4Roman, Explained

5 years ago 27 Comments

Community

Donate Your Coronavirus Stimulus Check If You Don’t Need It

5 years ago 31 Comments

Crafts & DIY Projects

How to Make DIY Face Masks for Coronavirus

5 years ago 22 Comments

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