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The Echo of My Friend’s Casual Biphobia Destroyed Our Relationship

“Remember your bi phase?” my best friend asked when we were in our 20s. I rolled my eyes.
“Yeah. It was never a phase.”

Two women tell each other a secret over wine, one is brunette and one is blonde. Overlayed over them are the bi pride flag colors (pink, purple, blue) and then on top of that layer is the following text message: But alas here I am, Not knowing and yet behaving bisexually.

Dating Identity

What People Said When I Came Out as Bisexual (Again)

A special shout-out to the friend who said “you know you can just be bisexual, right?” when I was spiraling about whether I’d have to give up being gay altogether and if the last five years of my life had been a lie.

four abstractly illustrated figures engage in a celebratory kinky dance. from left to right we have someone with top surgery scars wearing assless chaps, connected bvia a pair of cuffs to a person who is blindfolded and wearing cut out underwear, who is dancing next to someone in a mask and what appears to abe a full body rope bind, and followed by a person in a fishnet, corset and ballgag waving a flogger above their head. The figures are featureless and hairless and purple and the kink elements are red

AF+ Love + Sex

How to Find Local Kink Community and Also How to Hire a Sex Worker

“There’re contingencies of queer freaks everywhere, sometimes it just takes a little more effort.”

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Relationships

I’m Not a Cat Lesbian but I Fell in Love With One

I never wanted to live with a cat. Of course, the universe had other plans.

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Dating

You Need Help: Should I Tell My New Date I Used To Follow Her on Tumblr?

I think that this probably happens to people a lot more than you’d think.

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Sex Toys

When There Simply Isn’t a Face for You to Sit On, the Ora 3 Will Definitely Do

The default speed of the Ora 3 is similar to receiving extremely confident oral sex from someone who knows they’ll get you there eventually and isn’t in any hurry to make it happen.

Photo 1: A periwinkle long-sleeved satin blouse with a pussy bow collar. Photo 2: A keyhole long-sleeved leather-look bodysuit. Photo 3: A sleeveless floral jumpsuit in pink and green. Photo 4: High-waisted zip-front track pants in black.

Lesbian Weddings Queer Fashion

So You Want To Go to a Wedding

I present to you some items that might inspire you, should you be invited to a wedding or similar dress-up event and you are sick of reaching for the same two or three things.

Dating Podcasts

“Wait, Is This a Date?” Season Two FINALE: Long Distance Crushes with Elise Bauman

Dearly beloved, we are gathered here today to get through this thing called… a season finale! And to celebrate that ending, who better to come on and discuss the joys and successes of a long distance crush, than actor and queer person Elise Bauman?

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Friendship

You Need Help: How Do I Ask My Couple Friends To Hang Out With Me One-on-One?

Wanting to hang out with your friends separately as individuals rather than as couples is a perfectly reasonable request.

A cartoon image shows Veronica from Archie Comics, who has long, black hair with bands and wears a yellow top with a plunging neckline. She leans back in bed against a pink pillow with red trim with her hands behind her head. Her lower half is covered by a pink blanket. Red hearts swirl through the air around her. A white and brown lamp is on her pink bedside table to the right. Against the black background, yellow text reads: "Power bottom."

Sex

The Gay B C’s of Sex: P Is for Power Bottom

Perhaps the power bottom is in the eye of the be(hole)der.

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Dating Podcasts

“Wait, Is This a Date?” Podcast Episode 209: Bottoming with Chingy

Let’s make some noise for the bottoms in the house! (It’s me, the bottom in the house.)

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Breakups

You Need Help: I Can’t Get My Exes Out of My Head

We don’t need to be friends with our exes. One more time for emphasis. We don’t need to be friends with our exes.

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Dating Podcasts

“Wait, Is This a Date?” Podcast Episode 208: When Your Friends Don’t Like Your Partner

Bringing someone home to meet your parents is such a trope it’s become an entire genre of movie. But for many queer people there are two families to introduce to a partner: given and chosen. And sometimes the chosen family is scarier.

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Friendship

You Need Help: Do I Owe a Girl From My Past an Apology in the Present?

Treat people better than you did in your early twenties, and eventually you’ll realize that you have nothing to feel guilty about anymore.

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Dating Podcasts

“Wait, Is This a Date?” Podcast Special Episode: Mailbag Minisode #1

From how to have a first lesbian experience to how to be horny and demisexual! If you’re thinking hmm these queers seem to know what they’re talking about then go ahead and send in your own question!

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Dating

You Need Help: Is Substance Use a Dealbreaker?

As someone who’s dealt with substance issues, my friends and my therapist told me to cut and run, so I did. And now I regret it.

In the bottom right corner of the image, there is a black line drawing of two women with 1950s hairstyles whispering to each other against a teal background. In the upper left corner, there is a speech bubble. Inside the speech bubble, there is an image of a pink piece of plastic shaped like a slide with a black bow on top. Waves are visible around the plastic.

Sex Toys

The WaterSlyde Aquatic Stimulator Will Never, Ever Compare to My First Love — a Pool Jet

The water was carried a distance away from the faucet, yes, but that distance was…absolutely nowhere near my vulva.

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Dating Podcasts

“Wait, Is This a Date?” Podcast Episode 207: Hygiene

Ah, bodies. These sacks of meat, bones and skin that we must drag around until we come up with a better way to get through this thing called life. We knew we needed to dig into this and who better to do it with than the one and only Samantha Irby?