Sex

Needle Play Brings Me Back into My Body Over and Over Again

Editor’s Note: This essay includes descriptions of piercings with hypodermic needles and blood in a BDSM context and brief references to self-harm. Needles are an edge. They encompass many spheres and much stigma, reminding us that we’re flesh sacks filled with fluid a mere pinprick can pierce. IV drug users and those who are tattooed […]

Relationships

You Need Help: Is ‘Lesbian Bed Death’ Really So Bad?

It’s easy to get the impression that everybody should be wanting to have lots of sex, all the time. But sex is not inherently superior to any other way you and your partner might spend time together. You and your partner are the only ones who get to decide how sex fits in to your life together, and which activities and intimacies are most meaningful to you both.