You Need Help: How Can I Deal With My Own Sexual Shame?
I want you to know that your shame is not uncommon and you’re not alone in feeling it. While it does take a long time to undo, you’re on the right track by acknowledging it verbally.
Thank You, Ex: For the Ring Dish That Reminds Me I’m Hot
I was never much of a ring-wearer until I came out.
Blush and Bashful: Let’s Talk About Wedding Registries
Your loved ones want to get you the things you want, and they can only do that if you tell them what that is!
You Need Help: My Partner and I Disagree About Our COVID Risk Reduction Practices
Sometimes, after dealing with an active crisis as a team, it’s the period afterward that can start to pull us apart. There’s more time and space for your individual needs and feelings; it’s not surprising that this is when the resentment can really start to build!
Dykes on Dates: Tips for Topping (Homemade Pizza)
You don’t have to be a seasoned home chef to make pizza date night a reality! I’ve got tips for all skill levels and price points.
You Need Help: Should I Try Again To Turn a Friendship Into Romance?
You have to evaluate if you can experience the friendship not as a consolation prize or a waystation for your ultimate destiny of romantic partnership with them but as a gift that is exactly what you want.
Blush and Bashful: What It’s Like To Be Queer and Engaged
If you’re wondering what some queer people who aren’t me are thinking about when it comes to getting engaged and wedding planning (or not wedding planning), this installment of Blush and Bashful is for you.
Dykes on Dates: Bowling Is the Epitome of Romance
You get to talk a bunch, like a dinner date but with an added activity — one almost insists you stare at your partner’s ass.
You Need Help: How Do I Flirt When I’m Worried About Coming On Too Strong
I’m black and masculine so I’m worried that if I tried to make a move it would come off too strong, which I know I really shouldn’t but we live in a world.
She/Her/Sir: Finding My Home in Kink as a Black, Queer, Masc of Center Dom
Kink can be a profound space of healing, which is something that Black people — and especially Black women — deeply deserve.
I’m a Cool Rock Lesbian
By which I mean I am a lesbian who likes to look at and hold cool rocks — not that I am a lesbian into cool rock ‘n roll, but I’m sure those lesbians are great.
Blush and Bashful: How One Fat Femme Bought Her Dream Wedding Dress
The reason I wanted to write about this experience is explicitly to say to other fat brides that buying a dress does not have to be a negative experience.
Heart Whisperer: How I Found My Way to a Love That’s Lasted 45 Years
In the autumn of 1977, I met the partner of my dreams, and we’ve been sailing through life together ever since.
You Need Help: My Partner Keeps Saying We’re Going to Break Up!
The fact that you feel affected by what your partner tells you, even when they’re not their best self, is not inappropriate or bad. It’s human.
Homo Reno: 13 Tips for Keeping Your 5 Year Queer Relationship Intact While Renovating the House You Live In
Sometimes you are going to have to undertake a project during which it will be inevitable that you will scream at each other. My advice is to just kind of pretend it didn’t happen.
You Need Help: I Think My Partner Is Emotionally Cheating On Me
The idea that we must save our intimate, intense feelings only for our partners is a deeply heteronormative one, and I don’t want us to adhere to it.
When One of Us Transitioned, Our Relationship Changed for the Better
By the time the lockdown lifted, she (Lucy) had kicked a life-long nail biting habit, and I (Summer) had come out as transgender.
Blush and Bashful: You’re a Lesbian and You Want To Buy an Engagement Ring
“There are so many ways to individualize your ring and make it super unique for your relationship and yourself.”
You Need Help: Should I Tell My Crush How I Feel?
You’re wondering if you should admit your feelings to her, but you’re not sure if she’s queer or not. Let’s look practically at all the options.
I Laid an Alien Egg Inside My Girlfriend With the G’lorp, So I Can Officially Say I’ve Tried It All
When I learned there are sex toys called ovipositors that allow you to lay “alien eggs” in your host, I had to try one.