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Relationships

You Need Help: You Fat-Shamed Your Beautiful Girlfriend

If your girlfriend wrote into this column with this story, I would tell her she should break up with you.

Heather Hogan January 17, 2023 175 Comments
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Sex Toys

How to Shop for Accessible Sex Toys When You Live With Chronic Pain

Living with chronic pain has taught me how to help myself and others achieve pleasure using accessible sex toys.

Carly S. January 12, 2023 7 Comments
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Dating

You Need Help: How Do I Get Back Into Dating at Age 54?

As a culture, we spend a lot of time talking about all of the ways that dating can suck; it becomes easy to forget how fun it can actually be!

Darcy January 10, 2023 8 Comments
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Sex

The Gay B C’s of Sex: S Is for Stone

Slick back your hair and cuff those sleeves — we’re heading back to the 1940s and ’50s.

Ro White January 5, 2023 10 Comments
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Relationships

You Need Help: I Feel Like I’m My Girlfriend’s Second Choice

I want you to start 2023 feeling like your own number-one pick. That way, when the right person comes along, you’ll be ready and confident to be her number-one pick, too.

Vanessa January 3, 2023 14 Comments
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Lesbian Weddings

Some Things I Didn’t Expect When Planning My Lesbian Wedding

2. I’m in not infrequent contact with a woman named Daphne who is renting me a Fancy Portable Toilet Trailer with air conditioning.

Vanessa January 3, 2023 21 Comments
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Friendship

You Need Help: My Best Friend Broke Up With Me

How can I grieve this and move on? I assumed it would just happen with time but a lot of time has passed and I’m still stuck.

Yashwina December 20, 2022 19 Comments
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Lesbian Weddings TV Feature

Looking Back at the Queer Episodes of “Say Yes to the Dress”

My understanding of my queerness has evolved significantly since the first lesbian brides appeared on Say Yes to the Dress.

Sa'iyda Shabazz December 19, 2022 6 Comments
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Sex Toys

The Le Wand XO Is Chic, Elegant, and Capable of Blasting Your Bits Into Bits

I love that this toy feels like a sleek, adult upgrade of my first vibrator.

Guest December 19, 2022
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Dating

You Need Help: After a Bad Date I’m Worried I’m Unlovable

We live in a world that doesn’t value people of color or women over thirty, so I understand why you feel like this. But you are lovable.

danijanae December 13, 2022 12 Comments
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Lesbian Weddings

I’m a Queer Bride on a Budget — And I Went to a Bridal Expo

Have you ever heard of a Bridal Expo? I sure hadn’t! And did you know there are wedding-themed porta potties?!

Vanessa December 12, 2022 35 Comments
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Friendship

You Need Help: I’m In Love With My Straight Best Friend

There will come a time when you see someone at the grocery store or in class and think “oh wow, they’re cute!” And then you’ll know: the hard work has paid off.

Darcy December 6, 2022 8 Comments
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Relationships

How I’m Rewriting the “Trophy Wife” Script As a Queer Trans Woman

I want to be treasured for my many wonderful qualities beneath the surface and held proudly by the person who chooses to date me.

Summer Tao December 5, 2022 3 Comments
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Sex

The Gay B C’s of Sex: G Is for Gold Star Lesbian

Put on your lesbian hard hats — we’re about to enter dangerous territory.

Ro White December 1, 2022 34 Comments
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Relationships

You Need Help: I Want to Work on Myself, How Do I Do That?

I have behaviors I notice that spill into my relationship that stem from personal issues. I want to be a better person to myself, and my partner. I want to feel like my cup is full as I am, and then be able to use that to help fill our cup.

Abbie Jones November 29, 2022 25 Comments
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Sex Toys

The Iroha Plus Tori Looks Less Like A Sex Toy and More Like a Woodland Grub (But It Still Got Me Off)

Because of the Iroha Plus Tori’s ambiguous shape, I wasn’t immediately clear on how to use it. 

Guest November 28, 2022 1 Comment
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Life Relationships

You Need Help: What To Do With This Meaningless, Single Life?

I want to try to hold space here for both: for your (and my, really) pain and for the possibility that you may not feel this way forever.

himani November 22, 2022 68 Comments
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Relationships

You Need Help: My Trauma is Activated When My Partner Masturbates to Porn

Your feelings are deeply understandable, even though your partner isn’t doing anything wrong. If you haven’t already, it’s time to seek trauma therapy.

danijanae November 15, 2022 49 Comments
In the bottom right corner of the image, there is a black line drawing of two women with 1950s hairstyles whispering to each other against a pink background. In the upper left corner, there is a speech bubble. Inside the speech bubble, there is an image of Her Ultimate Pleasure, a purple sex toy with a dildo-shaped portion on one end and a clear, plastic cone around a small, pink tongue on the other end.
Sex Toys

“Her Ultimate Pleasure” Turned Me Into a Bratty Bottom

When I eventually had one of the best orgasms of my life, I felt like something inside me had been rearranged.

Guest November 15, 2022 5 Comments
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Relationships

My Chronic Yeast Infections Wouldn’t Go Away — Until I Left My Toxic Relationship

I wish my doctor had mentioned the relationship between stress and chronic yeast infections.

Aalis November 14, 2022 8 Comments
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