I’m a Stone Butch Top Who Can’t Bring Myself To Penetrate Anyone Else

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Hi. I am a stone butch who has never penetrated someone, but who wants to try. I’m struggling to get over the empathetic feelings of “Aaa! Vaginal penetration is painful and bad” when I know that’s not how a lot of people feel. But it is how I feel about my own body. How do I sort of lean into a more understanding feeling regarding others’ desire for penetration?
Nico: Thank you so much for writing in! To start from the broadest possible standpoint, every single person's body is different, and also, so is every person's relationship to their own ...

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